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Why being a “torpe” will never work
Posted by Chris in Dating, Tips, Women
Unless you have the looks and popularity of Brad Pitt, the body of a Greek god and the richness of Bill Gates – you will never find a date if you’re a shy guy especially in the not-so-liberated Philippines.
But first things first, what’s a “torpe” anyway? For the guys out there who didn’t grow up in the Philippines, “torpe” is the term used to describe a guy, who is so in love with a girl but is too shy to admit his feelings for her. So why will it not work? Here are the major reasons why:
1. Women don’t make the first move
You could wish all you want that she’d be the one to make the first move but this is unlikely to happen especially in the Philippines where girls who make the first move are branded as flirty. That’s a fact!
2. Women don’t know what’s in your mind
I used to have a female friend who likes this guy. Now this guy is also my friend and I know that he likes her too. What’s the problem? Well he’s “torpe” and couldn’t even look at the girl straight in the eye. And guess what? Nothing happened between the two of them.
3. Women hate mind games
That’s right. Women also hate mind games the way we do. They hate guessing how you feel for her in the same way that we hate guessing what she feels. You can give all the hints that you like her (e.g. touching her hand, saying sweet compliments) but this will be of no use unless you tell her exactly how you really feel.
To prove this, I’ve read somewhere over the Internet that lots of women are searching Google for the phrase “How to tell if a guy likes you”. Well wouldn’t you feel terrible if the girl you like is the one searching Google for that? Remember: it’s only you who could give her the answer so better tell her how you feel before she loses interest in you.
4. Women want confidence, not shyness
Do you ever wonder why it’s a common notion that women like bad boys? It’s because bad boys have the confidence to admit their feelings towards women without fear of being rejected or so. After all, confidence is all that it really takes. If you get rejected, get over it and move forward.
I remember MYMP’s “Torpe Song #5″. It’s really a great song that describes what a torpe guy is really like. It gives the torpe guys the ego-booster needed. Check out the lyrics here.
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as the saying goes No Guts!No Glory.!^^
AMEN to that!
wala talagang mangyayari kung walang gagawin, even if you are super popular, has a nice body and very good looking. take for instance piolo pascual.
when i like somebody, i make body contact
it’s easy to gain confidence, just be yourself. it depends to where you’re good at, sports, travel, games, studying, party, and the likes!
hindi sa pagmamayabang pero, i don’t have a problem with this, i have this suplado attitude that some people adore and my charisma is high hehehehe
shoulda, woulda, coulda ang aabutin mo kung to-torpe torpe ka.
hey chris what’s up??? chinese new year na! nasan ka na??? hehehe…
@boris/everyone – I’m back. I’ve not been around the past few days because I got a little busy.:)
Well, im an exmple of this t0rpe guy.. Hmm, thanks for the tips, i h0pe i can apply it..
I actually hate you for being insightful, coz sometimes you write things that are so true it hurts my eyes to read them ha ha ha but, really, it’s like facing yourself in the mirror, reading you. Like,you knew it all along yourself but you get giddy admitting that it is what it is.
Ramillav – The first part of your comment shocked me because I thought you really hated me. Haha.
Thanks for finding the article to be insightful
Ha ha ha. Hmm… I like to shock people before complimenting them, it sort of throws them off, otherwise they get their head expands like the universe in a big bang. Hmm. I followed your recommendations on Oxygen Static. they have this scent 11:55 which my female companion said was more fragrant…
Yes, if you want inexpensive scents, Oxygen has one of the best.
@Angelo/all, Hey this a great site, great article Chris. Been searching the term torpe and found your site. Still confused why women comments
me on that but I believe, they just want to make papansin.
All through out my younger years. Lots of girls (many I even don’t know,especially during college years) made parinig this to me. Though sometimes even now, some still comments this.
@Chris, yes its true that generally Women don’t make the first move, but some do, some even dropping physical hints(make parining, touch you etc.)But its just me, I had been weak/complete ignoring them before but now I had aged a bit, i’m now more sensitive of these hints. Ü. hehehe.
McC – thanks for the compliment.
Hmm, I think you should stop ignoring them. They’ve given you hints so I guess it’s time for you to make your move.
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Women are pathetic! If gagawa ka ng tama then ikaw ang mali. I dunno pero I don’t understand them.. Mas gusto pa ng manyak kaysa sa matino. #4 sounds right pero wooaaahhh bakit ganun?!
Manyak kaysa matalino? Omg, that’s not true >.< matalino mas mabuti.
tsk. Ang mganda jan, torpe pero na overcome yun. Kasi minsan, kung masyadong confident ang lalaki and he seems that he has no shyness inside him, iisipin nila babaero yun.
Great post. This really gives me a insight.