Get ready to be a little cheesy as PGG lists down the top 12 songs that guys can dedicate or sing to their girlfriends. Note that you need to have access to YouTube to see the videos.

1. For the “You and Me against the world” couple: You’ll Be Safe Here by Rivermaya

Debuted some time in 2005 in the ABS-CBN TV Series Spirits, this song from Rivermaya quickly made it to the music charts. I remember the first time I heard it, I couldn’t get over the last half of the song. Pay attention to its lyrics below. Very meaningful as it gives a sense of “You and Me against the world no matter what” feeling.

When nobody hears you scream
I’ll scream with you
You’ll be safe here

In my arms
Through the long cold night
Sleep tight
You’ll be safe here

When no one understands
I’ll believe
You’ll be safe,
You’ll be safe
You’ll be safe here
Put your heart in my hands
You’ll be safe here

2. For your very beautiful girlfriend: Just the Way You Are by Bruno Mars

There was a time in 2010 when all of my friend’s status on Facebook was the lyrics of Just the Way You Are. It’s a great song and it tells about what we guys feel when we are with our beautiful girlfriends. Check out the lyrics below which will really make any girl head over heels when this song is sung to them.

Yeah, I know, I know, when I compliment her she won’t believe me
And it’s so, it’s so, sad to think that she don’t see what I see
But every time she asks me do I look ok, I say

When I see your face, there’s not a thing that I would change
Cause you’re amazing, just the way you are
And when you smile, the whole world stops and stares for a while
Because girl you’re amazing, just the way you are(yeah)

By the way, I just wanted to add that the music video of Just the Way You Are is really cool and the girl is hot as well.

3. For those in a complicated relationship and want to leave everything to fate: If It’s Love by Train

There are times in our lives when we meet someone but things just get complicated. I’m talking about instances wherein you have a girlfriend and her parents don’t like you so you break-up or you meet someone at the wrong time when you are committed to someone else and so on. Or times when you like someone so much but are too scared about getting married.

This song from Train is just about all that. I admit that there are parts of the lyrics that are difficult to understand (it’s a deep song actually) but it’s about leaving things to fate.

But I’m afraid when I hear stories about a husband and wife
There’s no happy endings, no Henry Lee
But you are the greatest thing about me

If it’s love
And we decide that it’s forever
No one else could do it better

If it’s love
And we’re two birds of a feather
Then the rest is just whenever

And if I’m addicted to loving you
And you’re addicted to my love too
We can be them two birds of a feather that flock together

4. For those who sacrificed for a loved one: Iris by Goo Goo Dolls

Let’s face it: Romance is not easy. You may lose friendships, ambitions and even ties with family members for the sake of the person you love. Other people just don’t understand why we give up everything for that one person but when you are truly in love, it seems like the best thing to do.

Now one of the rock songs that really embodies all these in its lyrics is Iris by Goo Goo Dolls. This song is the official soundtrack of City of Angels, a very beautiful movie. The movie, starring Meg Ryan and Nicolas Cage tells a story of an angel who gave up his being an angel (consequently, his immortality) for the sake of the human being he fell in love with. (*Spoiler alert*). The sad thing is that at the end of the story, the girl dies.

And I’d give up forever to touch you
Cuz I know that you feel me somehow
You’re the closest to heaven that I’ll ever be
And I don’t want to go home right now

And all I can taste is this moment
And all I can breathe is your life
Cuz sooner or later it’s over
I just don’t want to miss you tonight

And I don’t want the world to see me
Cuz I don’t think that they’d understand
When everything’s made to be broken
I just want you to know who I am

5. For those in a love and hate relationship: Hate that I Love You by Rihanna and Ne-Yo

You know how your special someone (be it your girlfriend or wife) has that special magic? Like no matter how she fails or hurts you sometimes but then just one kiss, one hug, one gift, one smile and everything’s forgotten? If you can relate to that, the perfect song that says it all is none other than Rihanna and Ne-Yo’s Hate that I Love You.

That’s how much I love you
That’s how much I need you
And I can’t stand you
Must everything you do make me wanna smile
Can I not like you for awhile? (No….)

But you won’t let me
You upset me girl
And then you kiss my lips
All of a sudden I forget (that I was upset)
Can’t remember what you did

And I hate how much I love you girl
I can’t stand how much I need you (yeah..)
And I hate how much I love you girl
But I just can’t let you go
But I hate that I love you so

6. For the hopeless romantic: I’ll be by Edwin McCain

If you read the lyrics of the song, it describes how the guy is so drunk and somehow hypnotized with being in love. The first part of the song describes how beautiful the girl is – “stealing” his breath away. The chorus then mentions that he could be her “crying shoulder” and so on…

Although dubbed as a hopeless romantic song, trust me guys, if you have a good singing voice and happen to sing this in front of your date or your girlfriend, she’ll immediately go head over heels for you. I have known many women who are so into this song.

I’ll be your crying shoulder,
I’ll be love’s suicide
I’ll be better when I’m older,
I’ll be the greatest fan of your life.

And rain falls angry on the tin roof
As we lie awake in my bed.
You’re my survival, you’re my living proof.
My love is alive — not dead.
Tell me that we belong together.
Dress it up with the trappings of love.
I’ll be captivated,
I’ll hang from your lips,
Instead of the gallows of heartache that hang from above

7. For those whose girlfriend is their bestfriend at the same time: Solo by IYAZ

If you read the entire lyrics and watch the music video as well, this R&B song by IYAZ is all about having a bestfriend who happens to be a girlfriend at the same time. You’ll see in the song that at one point they were bestfriends doing the common things that they like but then she left him and suddenly his now alone (hence the title of the song Solo).

See yeah we used to be a team
Running the streets yeah
We was living out our dream, ohh
You used to be my rider
I was your provider
Now we separated in two
Oh and baby you left and sailed away alone (Yeah, alone)
And now you got me trapped up on this island
With no way to get home

And I dont wanna go, go
I dont wanna go, go
I dont want it no, no
I dont want it no, no
I dont want to walk this earth
If I gotta do it solo (solo)

8. For those who are too shy to say I love you, I’m sure this song is a good start: 1, 2, 3, 4 by Plain White T’s

When I first heard this song, I was like “What a catchy song!”. The chorus goes like this:

You make it easy
Its as easy as 1-2-1-2-3-4
There’s only one thing
To Do
Three words
For you
(I love you) I love you

It looks like a hilarious pick-up line and I’m sure that if you are too shy to say “I Love You”, singing the lyrics of this song will make it so much easier. I also recommend that you read the entire lyrics of the song. Even the first part is a really good one:

Give me more loving than I’ve ever had
Make me feel better when I’m feeling sad
Tell me I’m special even though I know I’m not
Make me feel good when I hurt so bad
Barely getting mad
I’m so glad I found you
I love being around you

Not to mention that the music video is cool as well. It shows how different couples met. Sweet.

9. For those who want to cheer up their girlfriends: Down by Jay Sean

Think that “Down” is a mere dance song? Think again. This song is also a romantic song. It actually has a candlelight version here. Check out its lyrics below. You’d see it’s perfect if you want to cheer up your girlfriend when she’s sad and lonely.

So leave it behind
‘Cause we have a night to get away
So come on and fly with me
As we make our great escape

So baby, don’t worry
You are my only
You won’t be lonely
Even if the sky is falling down
You’ll be my only
No need to worry

Baby, are you down, down, down, down, down?
Down, down
Baby, are you down, down, down, down, down?
Down, down
Even if the sky is falling down?

Don’t forget to check out the video too below. Cool stuff!

10. For the couples who broke up but want to get back together: Two is Better than One by Boys Like Girls and Taylor Swift

Before I understood the meaning of this song, I had to read and sing the lyrics multiple times.

I remember every look upon your face
The way you roll your eyes
The way you taste
You make it hard for breathing
‘Cause when I close my eyes and drift away
I think of you and everything’s okay
I’m finally now believing

That maybe it’s true
That I can’t live without you
And maybe two is better than one
But there’s so much time
To figure out the rest of my life
And you’ve already got me coming undone
And I’m thinking two is better than one

Basically, the lyrics tell a story of a couple who are now apart but can’t stop thinking about each other. This song is a good one for those who realize that breaking up was a wrong decision. Can relate to it? Watch the video below.

11. For the couples who are inseparable: I Don’t Wanna Miss A Thing by Aerosmith

Of course, how could I ever forget the soundtrack of the movie “Armageddon”? This song by rockstar Aerosmith revolutionized the way rock music is. It’s like they combined a rock song and a love song into one masterpiece.

The song’s lyrics details how at times we can be obsessed with a loved one.

I could lie awake just to hear you breathing
Watch you smile while you are sleeping
Well you’re far away dreaming
I could spend my life in this sweet surrender
And just stay here lost in this moment forever
Well, every moment spent with you
Is a moment I treasure

I don’t wanna close my eyes
I don’t wanna fall asleep
‘Cause I’d miss you, babe
And I don’t wanna miss a thing
‘Cause even when I dream of you
The sweetest dream will never do
I’d still miss you, babe
And I don’t wanna miss a thing

Lying close to you
Feeling your heart beating
And I’m wondering what you’re dreaming
Wondering if it’s me you’re seeing
Then I kiss your eyes and thank God we’re together
And I just wanna stay with you
Just stay in this moment forever, forever and ever

12. For those who found the one: God Gave Me You by Brian White

It was my first time to hear this song in 2011. It seems to be overplayed in the radio and I initially thought it was a new song. However, when I Googled it, I found that it’s actually an old song,dating back to 1999 and there’s even no music video for it available. Nevertheless, its lyrics are one of the best that you can dedicate to a loved one (especially if you two are both religious).

For all the times I felt cheated
I complained, you know how I love to complain
For all the wrongs I repeated
Though I was to blame, I still cursed that rain
I didn’t have a prayer, didn’t have a clue
And then out of the blue

God gave me you to show me what’s real
There’s more to life than just how I feel
And all that I’m worth is right before my eyes
And all that I live for, though I didn’t know why
Now I do, cause God gave me you

And here’s a recording sample of the song in YouTube, but it’s not the official video:

So there you have it. Now if you were to choose, which one will you dedicate to your girlfriend or special someone? It’s alright if your song is not in the list. Feel free to comment below.

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But even though my past relationships with these women failed and didn’t last, I got something out of it. I learned a few things or let me say lessons that every guy should remember whenever they enter a relationship. So let me share with you guys a few do’s and dont’s that you should know so that you could apply it to your life and relationships as well.


1. Always keep in touch with your girlfriend
This is probably one of the main reasons for my past breakups. I admit I’m not the type of guy who is fond of texting my location and whereabouts. It’s not that I’m cheating on her. It’s just that I’m too lazy to text and the difficulty of typing texts in touchscreen phones these days just got me lazier. Such a lame excuse right?

My advice: After realizing my own mistake, it is now clearer to me than ever that you should always text or call your girlfriend from time to time. Tell her what you are doing, ask her how she is doing, ask her if she’s taken her lunch and so on. Even a simple Facebook wall post saying you miss her (no matter how cheesy it sounds) is enough to make her happy.


2. Learn to accept her for who she is
We all have our own tastes when it comes to the women we date. Personally, I cannot handle naggers, smokers, flirts and girls who have a certain degree of weirdness in them. What if she has a dark past? Say she was a former ecstasy addict, a lesbian or may heaven forbid: a former prostitute? Well that seems a bit exaggerated but it can happen. It’s up to you whether you can accept her for who she is and who she’s not. Your tolerance level to her negative traits is a measure of how long your relationship will last.

My advice: Before making that hot girl your girlfriend, control your crotch and make sure to get to know her well first. If you can accept her for who she is in the same way she accepts you for who you are, then that is the time to make her your girlfriend.


3. Quality time at least once per week
I understand that we can get busy with our own lives. I had my own fair share of overtimes, holidays at work, family and friends getaway, blogging activities and so on. Now with all those things going on with our lives, it’s easy to forget to ask your girlfriend out on a quality date. Sometimes you are just too exhausted that you would rather sleep all day at home than spend time with your girlfriend. But those are not valid reasons to not go out on a date at least once a week and by that “date”, I mean you and your girlfriend alone.

My advice: Although typically you would go out 2-3 times a week with your girlfriend, you two as a couple have to go out at least once a week in case you are truly busy. That’s the minimum. Any fewer than that frequency will cause ugly fights, cold relationships or just the bitter end – breakups.

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4. Fighting is healthy
I used to have a girlfriend whom I never had a single fight with. I thought it was awesome but at the same time weird. I realized that the reason why we never had a fight is that we were both keeping to ourselves secretly what we do not like about each other. That was until that fateful day came when we just both exploded in angst and we had a HUGE fight. That single huge fight ended our relationship.

My advice: Openness is very important in any relationship. Telling your partner how you feel, what you like and what you do not like is needed in order to know each other better and to make the relationship last. It is also necessary to set some rules and guidelines between you and your girlfriend. Things as simple as what time you expect her to be home, what clothes she is forbidden to wear, how many bottles of beer she allows you to drink on a boys night out are all necessary so that you fulfill each other’s expectations.


5. Badmouthing is a big NO-NO!
This is related to number 4. Sometimes when we get into fights or quarrels with our girlfriends, we tend to vent those emotions to our beer buddies or other male colleagues in order to get some consolation and to ask for advice. We might even go overboard by badmouthing our own girlfriends – telling everyone how much of a bitch or slut she is and the list goes on. Worse, we might even tell our family (our parents or siblings) in advance that we have broken up with her and that we swear not to get back with her no matter what. Then suddenly, after a few days, you and your girlfriend resolve things and voila – you two are back in each other’s arms.

Now what will your beer buddies, colleagues and family think once you tell them that you have fixed things with your girlfriend and you two are back together? They will think that you are such an idiot! And the worst part of it is that your girlfriend already has a permanent mark in their minds that she is a bitch, a slut, or whatever-bad-adjective-you-used-to-badmouth-her-while-you-two-were-having-a-quarrel. A fugly situation isn’t it?

My advice: Whenever you and your girlfriend have a fight, please keep it between the two of you and resolve it on your own. Or if you just can’t and you find that you need to tell someone to preserve your own sanity, then open up to your most trusted male friend (probably a best friend) who understands you. NOTE: I said trusted male friend because most of the time, female friends cause much gossip you wouldn’t want.

Also, as much as possible, do not open up your girlfriend problems with your parents or siblings unless you are 100% sure that you no longer want to get back with her again. Parents and siblings have a tendency to remember everything you say about your girlfriend and they will naturally take your side (which on one hand is a good thing). On the other hand, the bad thing happens when you and your girlfriend get back together and subsequently get married. Well guess what? Your family will always remember her as someone who is not completely trustworthy for hurting you in the past. Not a very ideal scenario between your wife and her in-laws isn’t it?

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So there you have it. These are the five things every guy ought to know when it comes to relationships. I have learned this the hard way through my own experiences and some from my peers. I hope you use these tips well to your advantage and if you can add to the list to help the other guys, please leave a comment below.



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Let me share with you the 3 kinds of girls I’ve dated in the past and the level of friendship and attraction we’ve had. I’ll just use false names to avoid any form of drama and more importantly, to be equally fair with them. Perhaps you could relate to my story and realize the same things that I did about having just the right amount of friendship and attraction before transforming your date to a girlfriend.

Sarah (100% friendship, 20% attraction)
She’s a cute and funny girl.  So funny and easy to get along with. She thinks the way I do and just one look at each other, we already have an idea of what we wanted to say or laugh at without saying a word.

You know that kind of girl you’ve known since you were a kid? Sarah is one of them. We both know what we like and what we don’t. In fact, our friendship is so deep that it would be very awkward for us to take that friendship to the next level. So at 100% friendship and only 20% attraction we are just that. Close friends -  no more, no less. We both understand that it’s the best thing to do to preserve the friendship and to keep us both sane.


Jessica (20% friendship, 100% attraction)
Jessica is one hot girl. Hot in a way that you get excited everytime the two of you go on dates.

Unfortunately, she’s the type of girl that is pure physical attraction only.

When we started dating, it was fun. Initially, it felt so good to tag along someone who seems to be catching everyone’s stares – but that feeling didn’t last for long.  Sooner or later, things didn’t work out. Having 100% attraction to her and only 20% friendship, I figured out that we didn’t really have a connection for us to last. Imagine this scenario. I like music she doesn’t like. She likes food that I don’t like. I like to do stuff she doesn’t like and vice versa. Even though we were attracted to one another (physically, that is), we realized we just had too many differences. The lack of connection felt like I was going to go nutts so we both decided to call it quits.


Nicole (60% friendship, 80% attraction)
Nicole is a gorgeous girl who likes many things that I do. She seems to be just the right combination of Jessica and Sarah. We started out as good friends and we just had the same likes and dislikes. Although we had differences, they were not deal breakers.

So she became my girlfriend back then. Then one day I started pondering why she seemed better than the first two. I realized that we just had the right amount of friendship and attraction to become a good couple (60% friendship, 80% attraction).

Now 60% friendship, 80% attraction isn’t really a hard rule. So how do you find out if you have just the right amount of chemistry with your date? Here are three indicators:

1. 50-75% similarity
I believe that for any relationship to work, you should have at least 50-75% similarity with her. It’s very important to have a common set of likes or dislikes that you two have. Whether same sports, same music or same hobbies, doing common things would make romance and your bonding last.

Now going beyond “75% similarity” might be boring. You might just be better off as friends like Sarah and I were.

2. You are mysterious enough to turn her on and vice versa
Remember back in highschool? We always get infatuated with that hottie cheerleader in our P.E. class and as soon as we get to know her true character, the mystery is gone and instead of being turned on more, we usually get turned off?

Same is true with the woman you are dating. Is she mysterious enough to keep you interested? Do you get more attracted the more she reveals her true self? If your answer is yes, then you are good to go to the next level.

But how about you? Are you mysterious enough?

I remember Nicole told me once that one of the main reasons she found me attractive was my being mysterious. Mystery is sexy. It is one of the major factors that keeps us attracted to the other person. The best advice I can give when you are dating someone new is to preserve your being mysterious by not divulging too much information about yourself all at once. Give little details one at a time so that you maintain that chemistry and attraction. It is what keeps women interested and draws the line between friendship and lovers.

3. Honesty
Confidence and honesty come in pairs. If you are comfortable and confident enough to say to her what you like and what you do NOT like and she could also do the same, then you have the right amount of friendship and it is time to level up. Now once you reach that point wherein you are both open and honest to each another, you will find that it would be so much easier to utter that question that makes us guys extremely sweaty and nervous: “Would you be my girlfriend?”. I’m sure by that time you will certainly get a “YES!”


I hope my experiences with my past dates and the indicators that I gave you would help you a lot this Valentine season. I wish you the best of luck on your dates and I hope to see you take your girl to the next level. Anything you want to share? Feel free to comment below.


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Last Monday, I was running late for work. I took a bus and while I was sitting I noticed a graffiti, sort of a vandalism text written on the headrest of the seat in front of me. Take a quick look at the photo below and try to read what is written.

It reads:
Wanted: Girlfriend
Requirement: Original copy of Virginity.

LOL. Funny indeed and I laughed even though I was already late for work.

In the first place, is there such a thing as “Original copy of Virginity”? And let me ask you guys, how important is a woman’s virginity for you?


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This random question popped in my head just recently. Why? Because I have a very rare surname. And for my entire life I have never met a non-relative who has the same surname as mine. But guess what? A new hire at our office (who happens to be pretty) has the same surname as I have. She’s not a relative. We tried to trace each other’s family tree to see if we have a common relative, but there was none.

Then my boss teased me saying: “You know what, you are single and so she is. She is pretty and I think you two would make a good couple.”

I replied: “I know, right? But I’m having second thoughts about it because we share the same surname. What if we got married? It would be something like “Santos-Santos nuptials”. Not a good idea. And for some reason I feel like it’s incest.” LOL.

(by the way, Santos is not my surname. It’s just an example I made up.)

After our conversation, my boss laughed boisterously.

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It sounds funny. But I am having lots of reservations about the idea. Not that it’s a big deal really. It’s just that my surname is really rare and I don’t want to wake up one day only to discover that I might have married a distant cousin. I remember I even asked this same question at the PGG Forums and PGG Facebook Fan page and I got interesting replies.

How about you? What do you think?

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When it comes to the dating arena, the last thing every guy would want is to find himself in the friend zone. Because when you get into the friend zone, it is almost impossible to get out of it. There is no turning back and it’s time to say goodbye to your prospect girlfriend because she is now just your ordinary girl friend (take note of the space).

What’s the friend zone anyway? If you aren’t familiar read this. You see, women classify every guy they meet into two. They group all guys who are a potential date and a potential boyfriend into the “dating zone”. And they group all those guys who are a good friend, a possible best friend or a brother to the so-called “friend zone” – somewhere you will never want to be in for the hottie you’re dating.

I’d like to share with you the things I have observed and learned so that you will not get into that dreadful friend zone.

1. Mystery is the keyword
Mystery is a turn-on. Don’t share too much information about yourself initially. My girlfriend tells me that when I was courting her there is really something in me that keeps her interested. She wants to know me better. Reason? I didn’t spill too much information during our first few dates. Guys who share too much on the first few meetings end up as just friends with the girl. But guys who preserve the mystery keeps the dating game exciting.

2. Don’t talk about relationships with her
This is a no-brainer, I’m sure. Why would you even talk about dating, relationships or even her ex with her? You see, these stories are reserved for her girl friends, not for you (that is, if you still want to fall into her “dating zone”). You should talk about topics involving the two of you, the places where you would want to take her and at least slowly give her hints that you like her.

3. Don’t always make yourself available
Don’t get me wrong on this one. Of course you should ALWAYS be there for her when you feel that she likes you already. But during the initial stages of getting-to-know each other, your availability can determine your fate. Remember, friends are the people who are always around. So if you are always around her you might just fall into the friend zone – so don’t overdo it. Be there when she least expects it and surprise her with chocolates at her desk and I promise you won’t regret it.

4. Don’t be a good puppy
A good puppy does everything their owner tells them. Guys who just say yes and yes to everything she says are wimps and she knows that they are boring to be with. Don’t forget that you have your own set of beliefs and mindset so stand for what you believe in and what you want. Learn when to agree and when to disagree. You’d be surprised that she will get more attracted to you because of your innate confidence.

5. Say how you feel but…
Not too early or you will freak her out. Saying how you feel is the most effective way to NOT fall into the friend zone. Want to know why? Because you have said clearly from the start what your intentions are and that is to be her boyfriend and not just friends. This is important so that she knows what to expect and won’t mistakenly place you in her circle of guy friends. Just make sure that the timing is right.

How about you? What have you learned about the friend zone? Share your own tips or experiences, I’m sure you can add more to the list.

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Basically there is this new study that concludes that men lose their minds speaking to pretty women. As a matter of fact, in the write-up it was said that one guy was so struck on impressing an attractive woman he had never met before, that he could not remember his address when she asked him where he lived.

In a way, I think this is true to most of us guys. When a gorgeous girl comes our way, we either find ourselves speechless, saying the wrong things or acting awkwardly around the girl. Later on we talk to ourselves after the encounter saying “Why didn’t I get her number?”, “Damn, I said the wrong thing…” or “Why didn’t I invite her for coffee?”.

I guess this has been a problem for most of us guys since time immemorial. It’s part of the male instinct, but I think we should be able to learn to shrug it off and regain our composure and confidence to be able to say and do the right things in front of a hot woman. I know it is difficult to master, but always keep in mind that women want confidence – No more, no less.

So how about you? Ever experienced saying or doing weird things after meeting an attractive female?

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We all know that in most Western countries the art of Speed Dating is no longer new in the ear since it is already a regular, or more of a usual event that happens once in a while. In the Philippine setting meanwhile, not every person is aware of what Speed Dating is all about, and how it really works.

I had my first taste of Speed Dating pre-Valentines of 2009 in an affair conducted by ICE productions called, “Single Hearts”. It was my first, and I had zero idea on how the whole process actually works. For all I know is that everyone will sit and will have the chance to do the talking with different girls for a short period of time, and after which either the male or the female will make their move to the next seat facing another potential date.

Try to recall your first day in college where orientations for block sections are usually conducted in order to get to know your new peers well. The same thing applies in Speed Dating. First things first, registration is needed in order to join the event. Second, you have to send your name, contact number and picture –usually via e-mail – , and not to mention, you have to be SINGLE (to be fair) in order to qualify for the game. Notification follows after which.

On the actual event, checking of names at the registration booth happens first, then name tags would be distributed after. These name tags are required to be worn by each individual during the entire process of the game.

Moving on inside the venue, speed daters are usually gathered where seats are already aligned and arranged. Male speed daters must be seated face-to-face with female speed daters. During the idle time of waiting for the other speed daters, don’t be surprised if some speed daters who are already in the venue would do the initiation to introduce themselves. You could do the same and eventually notice that some speed daters go to the event alone. So don’t be intimidated whenever you feel like approaching the cute girl seated across you.

In the event when everyone is already present and the list is in complete attendance, the host will most likely conduct several parlor games for all speed daters. The purpose of which is to build teamwork, and moreover to break the ice and barricades hindering each individual. Games usually allow each speed dater the chance to chat with their fellow teammates, as if you are just chatting with an acquaintance from high school while playing.

After the parlor games, the host will then start the whole essence of speed dating. Just imagine the setting of a tea party where seats are all facing each other. In my case, the females are the ones who must transfer to the next seat, every after the host says so. So usually a few minutes are given for each couple to get to know each other, and what amazes me the most is how you get to know the character, persona and little background of several people in a short span of time. I felt like I was a talking machine that needs to talk non-stop because once the actual speed dating starts, there will be no water breaks.

My mouth and butt literally hurt badly after. But the thought that you get to indulge yourself in something crazy and spontaneous like this (picture out talking to like 50 girls non-stop and getting to know the details and brief descriptions and backgrounds of each after the other) blew all the pain off. In formal speed dating, the host usually gives away a card to each speed dater for them to list down the girls that they find attractive. The host will usually conduct a compatibility test if who matches whom, and after which they give away the number of your match. This means to say, it must be a win-win situation where both parties agree that both of them are a possible match.

In my speed dating experience though, after the chitchat, a paper is attached at the back of each speed dater and any random girls can write at my back without me knowing which of the numerous messages written belongs to whom. After the writing segment, you will get the chance to learn the views, perspectives, comments, and opinions of the girls towards your personality, performance and being. In my case, I received positive feedback.

The event usually wraps up with awards for the best dressers, good-looking couple, potential couples and the likes. Sponsored products are given away after which, and if you are gutsy enough, you could start exchanging digits to other speed daters.

At the end of the day though, whether you still label yourself as single or not, speed dating does not really guarantee relationships, yet you will learn that it is a very safe and healthy environment to meet potential partners, and even lovers.

For our PGG readers,  have you ever joined speed dating? How was it like?

Tim is a 19-year-old Hotel, Restaurant, and Institution Management student, who considers himself as a modern Pinoy, and a great appreciator of male fashion. Tim hopes to share his experiences, and help the timid guys to get out of their old comfort zones in order to experience the zest that comes within a modern Pinoy.

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My friend and I decided to have a drink in a bar in Makati. Kararating nya lang galing States and looks pretty “boring” pero in reality he belongs to one of the most prominent families here in the Philippines. He looks good and neat so medyo lapitin. There was this good-looking girl who was staring at him at the bar where we were just talking about stuff and the HS times we had. Cars, girls and the likes. Kwentong lalake lang. Tapos biglang lumapit yung girl and this is how it went.

Girl: Hi
Friend: Hello
Girl: Haven’t seen you before, tiga dito ka ba?
Friend: Not really. Just hanging around I guess.
* Tumunog yung phone ng friend ko which was a low-end phone.

Girl: Ay! Why is your phone like that?
Friend: Why?
Girl: Kasi I don’t date guys who have lower phone models than I have eh. I have the iPhone kasi.
Friend: So why did you bother approaching me?

*Nakialam na ko
Me: Miss, if you intend to look for a gold mine, go find it somewhere else. We’re just enjoying ourselves here.
Girl: Hay naku! Poor people. Sayang gwapo pa naman kasama mo kaso…
Friend: Just leave ok?
*So umalis na yung girl. To get off some steam, lumabas kami ng bar to smoke. So kwento kwento pa rin kami. Lumabas din yung girl to meet up with some friends of hers (hot girls, if I may add). Then we just felt that we were their topic. Sobrang na bad trip na yung friend ko so we decided to pay the bill and head somewhere else. While we were waiting for the car na pina-park namin sa valet, lumapit na naman yung girl.

Girl: So you’re waiting for a cab? How cheap.

* Di nalang namin pinansin yung girl. Then nagkamurahan na dahil sa sobrang galit ng friend ko. Yung girl kasi medyo high na lasing e. Then lumayo na ulit sya. Tapos may dumating na guy na naka Corolla. Then nagpabayo yung guy dun sa parking lot. Medyo malayo kasi yun pinag-parkan ng valet so medyo natagalan. Sumigaw na naman yun girl sa amin ng ganito.

Girl: Do you have this ha?
* Then parang nagpapaka show girl sya sa kotse nung guy. Finally dumating na yung car ng friend ko and guess what? It’s a Audi R8. Napatanga yung babae at biglang lapit na naman.

Girl: Uy! I’m sorry na. Sige na you can take me home na! We’ll have so much fun.
Friend: Get off my effin face!
* Sumakay na kami and my friend just looked at them with a grin sabay zooom…. Buti na lang my friend kept his cool a little bit kasi kung ako yun baka sinampal ko. Muntik na nga e.

And in case you were wondering what an Audi R8 is…

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It’s IronMan’s car in the movie. I wish I saw the girl’s reaction upon seeing this car. So guys next time, beware of gold-diggers!

How about you? Ever experienced anything like that?

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Unless you have the looks and popularity of Brad Pitt, the body of a Greek god and the richness of Bill Gates – you will never find a date if you’re a shy guy especially in the not-so-liberated Philippines.

But first things first, what’s a “torpe” anyway? For the guys out there who didn’t grow up in the Philippines, “torpe” is the term used to describe a guy, who is so in love with a girl but is too shy to admit his feelings for her. So why will it not work? Here are the major reasons why:

1. Women don’t make the first move
You could wish all you want that she’d be the one to make the first move but this is unlikely to happen especially in the Philippines where girls who make the first move are branded as flirty. That’s a fact!

2. Women don’t know what’s in your mind
I used to have a female friend who likes this guy. Now this guy is also my friend and I know that he likes her too. What’s the problem? Well he’s “torpe” and couldn’t even look at the girl straight in the eye. And guess what? Nothing happened between the two of them.

3. Women hate mind games
That’s right. Women also hate mind games the way we do. They hate guessing how you feel for her in the same way that we hate guessing what she feels. You can give all the hints that you like her (e.g. touching her hand, saying sweet compliments) but this will be of no use unless you tell her exactly how you really feel.

To prove this, I’ve read somewhere over the Internet that lots of women are searching Google for the phrase “How to tell if a guy likes you”. Well wouldn’t you feel terrible if the girl you like is the one searching Google for that? Remember: it’s only you who could give her the answer so better tell her how you feel before she loses interest in you.

4. Women want confidence, not shyness
Do you ever wonder why it’s a common notion that women like bad boys? It’s because bad boys have the confidence to admit their feelings towards women without fear of being rejected or so. After all, confidence is all that it really takes. If you get rejected, get over it and move forward.

I remember MYMP’s “Torpe Song #5″. It’s really a great song that describes what a torpe guy is really like. It gives the torpe guys the ego-booster needed. Check out the lyrics here.

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