Well, I've got that problem, can anyone "cure" my sickness.? :)
first acknoledge that you can do it and you are not torpe.
now get into the act. gawin mo na ang moves...
Alright! I'm NOT Torpe! Kaya ko ito!
hindi ako torpe...
siguro parang phoebia lang yan..
kailangan gagawin mo para malabanan..
Hate to bump this thread but, yah,sorry kung medyo off topic, I sang the girl a song, I was looking at her the whole time, but for some reason, I got torpe again (I wasn't thinking I was torpe btw) and never gave her the expensive flowers which was suppose to be part of asking her out, nag dye pa ako ng hair ko para lang mapatinggin xa, but wala talaga, d ko man xa nakausap, any more advice? yung hindi pa nabanggit dito para mawala pagiging torpe ko
Quote from: ReCharge on March 23, 2009, 04:04:50 PM
Hate to bump this thread but, yah,sorry kung medyo off topic, I sang the girl a song, I was looking at her the whole time, but for some reason, I got torpe again (I wasn't thinking I was torpe btw) and never gave her the expensive flowers which was suppose to be part of asking her out, nag dye pa ako ng hair ko para lang mapatinggin xa, but wala talaga, d ko man xa nakausap, any more advice? yung hindi pa nabanggit dito para mawala pagiging torpe ko
keep those creative juices flowing... try and try until you can't try no more..
face your fear......un lang yan, kondisyon mo ng maigi ung utak mo
thx guys, try until I can't try no more
lagi akong torpe ever since... kahit sa mga crush ko hangang crush lng ako no way ako manliligaw. pero one time totoo pla ung sabe nilang love at first site...biglang my urge sa ktawan ko mg push na manligaw kinkantahan ko pa sa telepono. corny noh? :D tpos nung wla nkmi ngaun ko plng naisip ano ngyari skin. satingin ko meron right gurrl na ggsing sa dugo mu! :P
well isang "school of thought" yan. destiny ika nga..
Napansin mo ba yung mga teller sa banko? Napansin mo how friendly and charming they are sa mga clients. Use the same approach when it comes to girls you like. They don't really know their clients but they keep just keep it real..sila pa minsan nagsstart ng 'small talk'...
She doesn't know you, you don't know her - so what's the big deal?
Just. Go. For. It.
@ Jessie
I noticed one thing, pag hindi ko kilala, hindi ako torpe, pag kilala ko na, nagiging torpe na ako :D
Quote from: J e s s i e on March 28, 2009, 09:30:03 PM
Napansin mo ba yung mga teller sa banko? Napansin mo how friendly and charming they are sa mga clients. Use the same approach when it comes to girls you like. They don't really know their clients but they keep just keep it real..sila pa minsan nagsstart ng 'small talk'...
She doesn't know you, you don't know her - so what's the big deal?
Just. Go. For. It.
great analogy. but there must always be a take off point.
mahirap naman dahil kinuha mo lang yung info from the aplication or the clients records. and not all tellers are client-friendly.
right..... just be your self and relax. maybe your just tense lang.... pero tao lang ang mga yan, so just relax and talk to them start a conversation at tuloy tuloy na yun.....
kaibiganin mo muna pre as in parang normal lang.... ;D
saka muna balakin ung maitim mong balak...hehehe joke! :D
kapag kilala mo na sya
dapat nga mas marami ka masabi kasi alam mo ang gusto at ayaw nya!
try mo mag stretching para ma-relax ka hehe...
ito gawin mo bro,
just be a conversationalist
ang gawin mo, talk to every kind of people
kahit new meet mo pa lang (matanda,bata,single, married,iba iba)
give atleast 1 hr gawin mo itong exercise na ito
just start a conversation kahit kanino para matanggal
yung nerbyos mo sa pakikipagusap at pagiging torpe.
Diyan kasi nagsisimula ang katorpehan
at maraming dahilan
pero obserbahan mo
kapag nakikipagusap ka sa matatanda o kahit kanino
maliban sa hotbabe na maganda na type mo
iba ang feeling dba?
kapag matanda ang kausap mo parang walang lang (example: matandang babae)
pero kapag hotbabe na parang gusto mong tumakbo sa hiya at wala ng topic na pumapasok sa kukote mo dba?
minsan ang kawalan ng tiwala sa sarili mo
at mga weaknesses mo nakakapagpa torpe sayo
pero sa totoo lang its our job as a man to initiate a conversation
its should be our job to first initiate a kiss
and next is history dba, Hehehe...
naghihintay lng ang babae
na kausapin sila ng lalake,
be informative, kelangan marami kang alam na topic
GENERAL INTEREST
TRAVELING
FACTS
FAMILY
SOCIAL NETWORKING
FRIENDS
HOBBIES
INTEREST
MOVIES
BOOKS
wag lang religion hehe baka magaway kayo!
just be funny kelangan mapatawa mo rin sya!
sana nakatulong!
badboyjr
napapagod ako sa kakapost ah haha..
be proud of who you are and what you have..accomplishments, etc.. pero kung sikat na artista eh matotorpe din naman ako haha
kapalan mo mukha mo
^ haha kaya nga torpe.
siguro, simulan mo from a group of friends. humanap ka ng "common" sa inyo. para dun ang pasok mo.
kailangan mong marealize na walang gagawa ng panliligaw para sayo at wag kang matatakot na masaktan. to live is to be hurt a lot of times. It's better to try and failed kase at least nsabi mo sa sarile mo n ngwa mo n yan kesa dont try at all at kung anu-anong mga scenario sa isip mo ang naiisip at pahirapan ang sarile kakaisep ng mga what-if scenarios...
torpe ba ang taong nag dedesisyon na ayaw muna magka-gf?
hindi...pero minsan do mo talaga masasabi
Quote from: marvinofthefaintsmile on October 17, 2011, 12:06:48 PM
kailangan mong marealize na walang gagawa ng panliligaw para sayo at wag kang matatakot na masaktan. to live is to be hurt a lot of times. It's better to try and failed kase at least nsabi mo sa sarile mo n ngwa mo n yan kesa dont try at all at kung anu-anong mga scenario sa isip mo ang naiisip at pahirapan ang sarile kakaisep ng mga what-if scenarios...
tama xa..sa author - takot ka lng cguro mareject,so dapat alisin mo yun..kung manliligaw ka dapat open ka sa kaht anong rejection..
katorpehan is insecutity rin so ba confident kung sino ka ....
try to think some ways how to connect with her. Remember, guys are the active sex while girls are the passive sex. All the actions and first moves must start with us then the girl will act depending on the way we act. Be natural lang, wag magpanggap, pakatotoo lang. Or ganito muna gawin mo, try mong kumausap ng mga girls, kahit sino. Matanda, bata, may asawa, dalaga, maganda, pangit, mataray, handicap, madre tindera etc. basta hindi mo kilala at sa iba't ibang lugar. by that mapapractice mo yung sarili mo makiharap sa kahit kaninong girls and in the end baka makausap, malapitan and maligawan mo narin ang girl na gusto mo.
yun lang, thanks,
sakin naman, medyo nawawala na yung katorpehan ko gawa kasi ng mga barkada ko. once na meron akong hindi nagawa dun s taong gusto ko, mumurahin na nila ako may matching sapok pa, after that napipikon ako. kaya minsan nilalakasan ko na talaga loob ko. heheh
hmmm pwede rin wag isipin agad na may gusto ka.....hehe para di ka mailang...mabasted man okey lang e pag lumusot di ayos..
Quote from: badboyjr on April 29, 2009, 11:01:48 PM
ito gawin mo bro,
just be a conversationalist
ang gawin mo, talk to every kind of people
kahit new meet mo pa lang (matanda,bata,single, married,iba iba)
give atleast 1 hr gawin mo itong exercise na ito
just start a conversation kahit kanino para matanggal
yung nerbyos mo sa pakikipagusap at pagiging torpe.
Diyan kasi nagsisimula ang katorpehan
at maraming dahilan
pero obserbahan mo
kapag nakikipagusap ka sa matatanda o kahit kanino
maliban sa hotbabe na maganda na type mo
iba ang feeling dba?
kapag matanda ang kausap mo parang walang lang (example: matandang babae)
pero kapag hotbabe na parang gusto mong tumakbo sa hiya at wala ng topic na pumapasok sa kukote mo dba?
minsan ang kawalan ng tiwala sa sarili mo
at mga weaknesses mo nakakapagpa torpe sayo
pero sa totoo lang its our job as a man to initiate a conversation
its should be our job to first initiate a kiss
and next is history dba, Hehehe...
naghihintay lng ang babae
na kausapin sila ng lalake,
be informative, kelangan marami kang alam na topic
GENERAL INTEREST
TRAVELING
FACTS
FAMILY
SOCIAL NETWORKING
FRIENDS
HOBBIES
INTEREST
MOVIES
BOOKS
wag lang religion hehe baka magaway kayo!
just be funny kelangan mapatawa mo rin sya!
sana nakatulong!
badboyjr
Thanks sa advise hahaha
cure? total boldness.
Practice. Baka naman kinakausap mo lang yung girls na gusto mo kausapin.
Tigilan mo mag jakol.
Praktisin mo kumausap ng lahat ng uri ng tao.
Then yung mga magagandang babae naman. Sa kahit saan. Gotta face your anxiety. Kahit magtanong ka lang ng directions or time or whatever.
Mas maganda ang babae mas nakakatakog lapitan at kausapin.
You just gotta overcome that fear.
Pataasin mo muna yung self esteem. Dun nagmumula ang katorpehan.