How do you deal with rejection? What do you do?
what kind of rejection?
keep moving forward... ;)
kahit ano... sa work application? basted? tinraydor ng kaibigan?
Quote from: ctan on November 07, 2011, 01:04:28 AM
kahit ano... sa work application? basted? tinraydor ng kaibigan?
pag rejection in general, simple lang: well, ganun talaga. hindi ko na lang ipipilit. ayaw eh. ang mahirap lang eh ire-reject ka na nga, ang dami pang sinasabi. okay sana kung constructive criticism pero lalaitin ka pa! waaaaaah
sa work application, hindi naman kami close ni ate or ni kuyang interviewer eh kaya hindi ako magtatanim ng sama ng loob. sa past interviews ko, okay naman, pasado sa exam at interview. pero sana binagsak na lang nila ako sa interview kesa yung mangungulit ako nang kafa-follow up tapos baratan ang job offer. kumbaga, mas maganda ang baril kesa sa mapurol na cutter. instant sapul!
sa pagiging basted, hindi pa naman ako naba-basted kasi magastos manligaw. hehe. j/k. kidding aside, nakakainis yung mga babaeng pag nabalitaan nilang may crush sila sa iyo eh todo-ilang o kaya sa iba mo malalaman na ayaw nila sa iyo. hindi ko talaga ma-gets ang woman logic. tapos may dalawa o tatlong tsansa na galit sila sa iyo kasi hindi mo tine-text o tinatawagan (e di ba sabi mo ayaw mo sa akin?! ulit? anlabo mo!)
sa pagta-traydor ng kaibigan, yan, ready na ready ako diyan. vocal ako pag hindi ko gusto yung pananaw nila o kabalastugan nila sa buhay. example: pambababae, pagtakas sa babaeng nabuntis (para akong kapatid ng nabuntis, nanapak ako) at pagsuway sa magulang dahil
"eh pare, nakakainis na eh," yung mga ganun. hindi ko alam na baka may mali sa prinsipyo ko na masyadong maka-tama pero yung mga ganung bagay, hindi dapat kinu-kunsinte. buti naman, wala pa akong kaibigang nambubugaw o nagtutulak ng droga.
pero sa rejection in general, ang mindset ko na lang eh, "well, ganun talaga. hindi para sa akin eh. siguro may ibibigay pa na mas maganda ang Diyos para sa atin" ganun. so i-treat natin ang rejection na isang magandang bagay.
cee, what a thread. haha.
work - malalaman ko yan kapag nag-apply na ako ulit. pero kung mareject, okay lang.
i would ask why they rejected me, if possible, then i'll evaluate myself and do better next time.
love - dalawang beses lang ako nanligaw. in both cases, close friend ko sila.
hindi ako nabasted (i would not take the battle that i know i would not win, hehe).
kung mabasted man, okay lang. pero kung sobrang mahal mo na siguro, hindi ko alam.
baka napariwara ang buhay ko.
friendship - in most cases, kung ayaw sayo ng tao, hindi ka na nila kakausapin;
there is a slight chance of knowing kung bakit ayaw nila sayo.
pero kung kaibigan mo na dati tapos ayaw na sayo for some reason,
at ikaw naman bilang isang kaibigan ay alam mong tapat ka,
i guess kawalan na nila yun. kung ayaw nila sa yo, edi wag.
patugtugin mo na lang ang 'Kung Ayaw Mo Wag Mo' hanggang maka-get over ka. ;)
sa akin naman,
work - di ko pa na-try ma-reject sa work... 3 lang kasi naging trabaho ever in my life. yung una, nung nag-audition ako for a stage play ng CCP sa amin nung highschool ako. nakuha naman ako... yung next job ko, as a teacher. di ako nag-"apply", kumbaga kinuha lang ako para magturo. then ngayon, eto bilang isang doktor. tanggap naman din. pero kung ma-reject man ako, hypothetically, malulungkot talaga ako. kasi, i believe that if i apply for a job, then i have to give it my all. and when rejected ako, it would mean that i'm not fit for the job that my heart longs for. but tulad ng signature ko dito sa forums, "your calling is the place where your heart's deepest gladness and the world's greatest needs meet".
lovelife - hindi pa rin ako nababasted... since birth, 3x lang ako nanligaw, yung una, hindi pa serious kasi bet/pustahan lang ng barkada. pero siguro kung mababasted ako sa panliligaw, of course malungkot din. hindi rin siguro ako manligaw ng mga 6 months at least from the time na nabasted. hehehe.
friends - this is the most hurtful of all rejection kasi it is with friends that you lay a foundation strengthened by time and trust... and all of a sudden would be broken by mere circumstance... di ko alam ano rin gagawin ko since di ko pa rin ito nararanasan...
so ayun. obvious kung bakit ginawa ko itong thread na to. hahaha!
^^ darkstar: ito ang fave ko sa rivermaya, apart from "bring me down" hehe... makanta sa videoke :D
kidding aside, yung work failure madali lang naman maka-getover sa rejection na yun eh. pag lovelife, depende. wala ako sa posisyong magsabi na na-reject ako kasi hindi pa ako sumusubok. ayoko pa muna. tsaka na pag astig na ako. marami pa akong immaturity sa buhay. at marami rin akong setback. so hindi muna
^re: ctan, wag ka ma-offend pero ang hirap ma-reject pag hindi ka pa nakakatikim ng rejection. pero okay na rin yung mga experience mo. in all cases, hindi ko tinitingnan ang lahat ng panget na bagay as rejections or failures but as lessons. leksiyon na makakapag-turo sa akin na hindi ko na uulitin. tama kayo, doc, minsan napapaisip ako kung bakit ako tinatraydor ng mga kaibigan ko, pero sabi ni darkstar, kung ayaw nila sa iyo, eh di wag. marami ka namang back-up eh, dito sa PGG hihihihihihi
totoo yan. somehow, rejection is one of my greatest fears. naisulat ko na rin ito sa blog ko.
nawks may blog ka pala doc. hehe... ayoko pa pong i-conclude na superficial ka. pero yun nga, mahirap sa isang taong hindi pa nakakatikim ng bloopers sa buhay na harapin ang rejection or failure.
yung HS friend ko, salutatorian, nakapasa sa UPCAT at talagang matalino, then one time, binagsak siya ng prof niya sa UPD. ayon, di pa rin makaget-over. di pa rin maka-graduate. then nagsanga-sanga ang mga kamalasan. minsan chini-cheer up ko siya pero naiintindihan ko kung bakit. hindi kasi siya sanay matalo, puro siya panalo. so, i guess, after all, wala rin namang masamang pumalpak, pero one failure at a time.
Quote from: pong on November 07, 2011, 11:46:06 AM
^^ darkstar: ito ang fave ko sa rivermaya, apart from "bring me down" hehe... makanta sa videoke :D
favourite ko rin ang bring me down! (lalo na kapag bad trip, together with Kung Ayaw Mo Wag Mo)
Pag senti, yung 'If'. ;)
Quote from: pong on November 07, 2011, 11:46:06 AM
pero sabi ni darkstar, kung ayaw nila sa iyo, eh di wag. marami ka namang back-up eh, dito sa PGG hihihihihihi
haha. sabi ko lang yun. sa totoong buhay, waaaaahhhh.
hindi ko kaya ma-reject ng kaibigan. it eats up the best in me.
hahaha. nakaranas naman ako ng rejection pero not in the 3 areas that ive mentioned. sa acads pa lang, sangkatutak na kapalpakan na naranasan ko. i have been kicked out from the up system, and that has robbed me of the will to move on in my academics. pero yun eh, compelling ang reasons to move on. :-)
Quote from: darkstar13 on November 07, 2011, 11:57:13 AM
favourite ko rin ang bring me down! (lalo na kapag bad trip, together with Kung Ayaw Mo Wag Mo)
Pag senti, yung 'If'. ;)
tara darkstar, kantahin na natin to sa susunod na EB LOLs
haha. sabi ko lang yun. sa totoong buhay, waaaaahhhh.
hindi ko kaya ma-reject ng kaibigan. it eats up the best in me.
^^^ siguro, darkstar, masyado kang trusting. ako rin trusting at times pero naiirita na rin ako paminsan-minsan kasi nadadala na ako.
Quote from: ctan on November 07, 2011, 11:59:16 AM
hahaha. nakaranas naman ako ng rejection pero not in the 3 areas that ive mentioned. sa acads pa lang, sangkatutak na kapalpakan na naranasan ko. i have been kicked out from the up system, and that has robbed me of the will to move on in my academics. pero yun eh, compelling ang reasons to move on. :-)
sabagay, very petty naman ang acadamics compared with real life situations. siguro pag nabasted ako sa 1st time na manligaw ako, baka ma-depress ako nang bigtime. hehehe...
^ natanong ko na rin yun sa sarili ko.
yun nga, i trust people too much.
kabaligtaran kasi sakin.
many people would need you to gain them their trust.
ako, i trust people agad. it's up to them kung sisirain nila yun.
at kung sinira nila yun, hindi na yun maibabalik pa..
-- with that, it means sasama ka sa next EB.
at ikaw ang unang kakanta ;) hehe
Quote from: darkstar13 on November 07, 2011, 12:08:20 PM
^ natanong ko na rin yun sa sarili ko.
yun nga, i trust people too much.
kabaligtaran kasi sakin.
many people would need you to gain them their trust.
ako, i trust people agad. it's up to them kung sisirain nila yun.
at kung sinira nila yun, hindi na yun maibabalik pa..
-- with that, it means sasama ka sa next EB.
at ikaw ang unang kakanta ;) hehe
ikaw muna, kantahin mo yung "Kung Maibabalik Ko Lang" ni Regine Velasquez hahaha!!! birit time!
teka, manghihiram muna ako ng mukha ng aso para makasama sa EB hehe... :)
kidding aside, bakit ka naman masyadong nagta-trust kaagad? nako, ikaw ang unang biktima sa mga networking business hehehe. pero hindi ka naman gullible hehe, j/k. try mo lang na kahit konti lang, na pagkatiwalaan mo rin ang sarili mo. yun ang key :)
mali ba maging too much sa pagtrust? :-D hehehe!
Quote from: ctan on November 07, 2011, 12:18:14 PM
mali ba maging too much sa pagtrust? :-D hehehe!
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ewan ko doc. magiging biased ang sagot ko. cynic ako eh :)
hahaha. it's good that you scrutinize things. pero baka maging hindrance yan to achieving life at it's fullness. kumbaga, instead of going to the mountain top and see the beauty of the world, you might be limited to the foot of the mountain and gaze at what's just there. :-)
Quote from: ctan on November 07, 2011, 12:38:04 PM
hahaha. it's good that you scrutinize things. pero baka maging hindrance yan to achieving life at it's fullness. kumbaga, instead of going to the mountain top and see the beauty of the world, you might be limited to the foot of the mountain and gaze at what's just there. :-)
no, i'm not drop-dead cynical. like most filipinos, i am one of the stereotypical guys. though once you broke that stereotype i'll have to shun that cynicism. i would like to believe that everything is great and everyone is good but i'll have to search the reasons behind it.
maganda yan pong! :-)
Quote from: ctan on November 07, 2011, 12:48:42 PM
maganda yan pong! :-)
yeah right, good thing, you can speak our native language. :D
hahaha! oo naman. gusto mo bisaya pa. :-p
I was first year college that time, ako and yung best friend ko nag audition for concert chorus, eh nung highschool kami ako lagi soloist siya one of the members of the choir lang tapos nung pinost na sa bulletin board yung mga nakapasok sa concert chorus wala yung pangalan ko pero siya andun huhuhu :( di kasi ako marunong ng note catching :(
After that I stopped singing na huhuhu :(
Ayaw ko na talaga maalala yun si doc kasi gumawa pa ng ganitong topic hayan tuloy :(
may naalala ako..
isa sa mga rejection moments ko ay sa shell gourami challenge.
series yun of there rounds of 'test'. sa last , feeling ko sobrang walang sense ang sinabi ko.
ang scenario kasi is kunwari ikaw yung CEO ng company. you'll be handed around 2-inch thick
of random papers/memos/reports. you are given 20 minutes yata to browse/read whatever.
then , sa actual interview, may two people na kunwari VP ng isang department na prinopropose na
ididissolve na, saka compant president. tapos ayun, tatanungin ka kung ano ang opinion mo
regarding the dissolution of that non-profiting department.
feeling ko palpak ako. haha.
tapos, after a week, pinadalhan ako ng letter sa bahay.
sabi, "we are sorry to inform you that you have not been accepted. no need to re-apply anymore"
ouch mail. haha.
rejection - means that a thing or a person is not meant for you..so move on..something better awaits you!..
ex. this is from my personal experience
3 years ago..i've always wanted to work for Philippine Airlines..i did everything,i did my best,i prayed so hard..pero nareject ako..and sobrang sama ng loob ko kasi tingin ko ok naman lahat..yung interview ko,yung resume ko and all that..so di ko maintindihan kung bakit di ako natanggap..
until mapanuod ko sa news recently at siguro alam nyo rin lahat..na halos lahat ng PAL employees tinanggal sa trabaho..and then i realized, i was lucky or even blessed pala na hindi ako natanggap nung time na yun dahil kung natanggap ako malamang isa ako sa mga walang trabaho ngayon.
so everything happens for a reason..so let's just accept whatever comes into our way.. and if we can do something to make it better then go for it..
been rejected a lot of times pero I don't dwell on it...rather, I change my perspective of the situation to be positive..in a way a challenge for me to become better
^ vir: good thing you didn't pursue a career in PAL, otherwise, you'll just be one of those underpaid employees who squeal on TV -- though it's just another story 'cause you don't stand at an altitude of 25,000 feet and paid below par. you're right - there's always something better in store for you so don't push your luck too hard, and too far :)
^ hi ram! we're on the same league. we don't have to dwell on our rejections 'cause we can't go forward if we did. that's a good start-up for the morning.
siguro just to finish my thoughts on these,
as long as I was given the reason for my rejection, whatever type of rejection it may be,
I will be able to move past it. I need to know what is wrong /lacking/missing for me
to take a step towards acceptance.
I think all the things that happen in our lives have a purpose, a lesson from which we should learn.
Self introspection would be easier if we are given the reason for our rejection.
case closed, ;)
good morning.
Mag isip kung ano ang pinaka effective na paraan para ma lapasan mo ung stage na un. pag naka move on kana, ayun magagawa mo din ung gusto mo.
When it comes to rejection, i think i am acting immature. Thinking thing over and over and over again even though it happen already. Thinking 'ifs' in ourself. If ever i've done this i am not rejected, if ever if ever unending..
But i bet most of us is like that..
Rejection from family is the most painful i think, but the most common is rejection from friends.
Rejection from friend undeniably hurts to the bone. Broke :(
Everything happens for a reason.
Maybe there are better things to come.
True! The most painful rejection you'll experience is from family and friendships.
done it many times. yung payo ng kaibigan ko sa akin, magpakatangan daw ako sa taong gusto ko hanggang ma-realized ko na tanga tlaga ako at yung pain will turn into numbness. di mo na ma-fefeel ang pain kasi you used to it na then ayun, mkaka-move on ka na.
Paasa. Hopia! Haha. Kaasar lang.
Quote from: ctan on November 07, 2011, 01:04:28 AM
kahit ano... sa work application? basted? tinraydor ng kaibigan?
Una, acceptance. It will take time na matanggap mo na nireject ka. Once matanggap mo na you can already move forward na hindi mabigat sa kalooban. :-)
Quote from: kevinjoe on May 13, 2016, 09:26:30 PM
Quote from: ctan on November 07, 2011, 01:04:28 AM
kahit ano... sa work application? basted? tinraydor ng kaibigan?
Una, acceptance. It will take time na matanggap mo na nireject ka. Once matanggap mo na you can already move forward na hindi mabigat sa kalooban. :-)
pero mahirap pa rin ang acceptance. hehe
Yung gusto mo yung tao at nagtatake advantage siya dun. Tapos wala, di ka gusto.
Kapag nareject ka dapat ay magpatuloy ka pa din. syempre dapat move on move on din pag may time. Hanap ka ng ibang mapagkakaabalahan para di mo masyado maisip ung rejection. Hope that helps.
Quote from: GustavoWoltmann on August 31, 2016, 11:24:13 AM
Kapag nareject ka dapat ay magpatuloy ka pa din. syempre dapat move on move on din pag may time. Hanap ka ng ibang mapagkakaabalahan para di mo masyado maisip ung rejection. Hope that helps.
mahirap pa din. :(
Quote from: ctan on November 07, 2011, 12:26:24 AM
How do you deal with rejection? What do you do?
First is ACCEPTANCE. Everything happens for a reason. Yun ang palagi ko sinasabi sa sarili ko everytime na ma-reject ako. Sa career man o sa love. Alam ko na may mas maganda pang opportunity na darating sakin. :) Keep your head up high bro. Be optimistic! Good luck :)
Quote from: chris_davao on September 01, 2016, 05:12:22 AM
Quote from: GustavoWoltmann on August 31, 2016, 11:24:13 AM
Kapag nareject ka dapat ay magpatuloy ka pa din. syempre dapat move on move on din pag may time. Hanap ka ng ibang mapagkakaabalahan para di mo masyado maisip ung rejection. Hope that helps.
mahirap pa din. :(
Gustavo Woltmann nagbabalik!
UU bro mahirap tlga yan sa umpisa. Pero kung nakatuon ang isip mo sa ibang bagay. Lilipas at lilipas ang panahon at makakalimot ka na din. Need time and patience tlga.
Quote from: GustavoWoltmann on September 02, 2016, 02:54:22 PM
Quote from: chris_davao on September 01, 2016, 05:12:22 AM
Quote from: GustavoWoltmann on August 31, 2016, 11:24:13 AM
Kapag nareject ka dapat ay magpatuloy ka pa din. syempre dapat move on move on din pag may time. Hanap ka ng ibang mapagkakaabalahan para di mo masyado maisip ung rejection. Hope that helps.
mahirap pa din. :(
Gustavo Woltmann nagbabalik!
UU bro mahirap tlga yan sa umpisa. Pero kung nakatuon ang isip mo sa ibang bagay. Lilipas at lilipas ang panahon at makakalimot ka na din. Need time and patience tlga.
thanks.
move on and learn from it. na niniwala po ako na the reason why you had been rejected kasi po theres something better for you. a friend of mine once said "Rejection is God's redirection". we can adapt that open-mindedness adn understanding na kung hindi itong bagay na too or itong tao na ito, siguro meroong ibang nakalaan para sayo. and let us as well remember as what the song had once said...: "what doesnt kill you makes you stronger"..take the pain of rejection as a stepping stone to become someone better than who you used to be. use that pain to be a jumpboard for something higher...