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Title: Things You Learned About When You Became A Dad
Post by: den0saur on February 28, 2018, 11:14:11 AM
Hello!

Post niyo dito yung mga bagong natutunan o nalaman niyo mula ng naging tatay kayo - things you did not know were needed to do or even existed.

Eto sa akin:

1. Mabilis magpump ang heart ng baby.
2. Nakakapamulubi ang infant formula milk.
3. Mamumulubi ka rin sa diapers pala.
4. May pamahiin pala na after 1 year pa pwedeng pagupitan ng buhok ang bata.
5. Nakakaiyak pala pag first time mo syang makita na kinukuhanan ng blood sample for newborn screening tsaka pag kelangan ng meds na iiinject.
6. May instances na mukhang banlag o duling ang bata pero normal lang pala yun kasi hindi pa fully developed ang facial features nya. Ero it's vetter to consult a pedia-optha.
7. Kawawang kawawa ang bata when they start teething.
8. For newborns, wag daw iki-kiss ang bata lalo sa mouth at hands kasi baka mahawa sya ng kung anong sakit na meron yung adult, hindi pa ganun kalakas immune system nya kaya delikado.
9. Pinakahirap ako pag may ubo at sipon ang bata. Halos di kami makatulog sa pagbabantay lalo kung may clogged nose.
10. Totoo yung sinasabi palagi ng nga matatanda na nakakatanggal ng pagod yung anak mo na ngingitian ka pagdating mo sa bahay after a long day's work.
Title: Re: Things You Learned About When You Became A Dad
Post by: outcastblueboy on February 28, 2018, 11:26:14 AM
Wo good observations
Title: Re: Things You Learned About When You Became A Dad
Post by: Alfred015 on February 28, 2018, 11:58:12 AM
Quote from: den0saur on February 28, 2018, 11:14:11 AM
Hello!

Post niyo dito yung mga bagong natutunan o nalaman niyo mula ng naging tatay kayo - things you did not know were needed to do or even existed.

Eto sa akin:

1. Mabilis magpump ang heart ng baby.
2. Nakakapamulubi ang infant formula milk.
3. Mamumulubi ka rin sa diapers pala.
4. May pamahiin pala na after 1 year pa pwedeng pagupitan ng buhok ang bata.
5. Nakakaiyak pala pag first time mo syang makita na kinukuhanan ng blood sample for newborn screening tsaka pag kelangan ng meds na iiinject.
6. May instances na mukhang banlag o duling ang bata pero normal lang pala yun kasi hindi pa fully developed ang facial features nya. Ero it's vetter to consult a pedia-optha.
7. Kawawang kawawa ang bata when they start teething.
8. For newborns, wag daw iki-kiss ang bata lalo sa mouth at hands kasi baka mahawa sya ng kung anong sakit na meron yung adult, hindi pa ganun kalakas immune system nya kaya delikado.
9. Pinakahirap ako pag may ubo at sipon ang bata. Halos di kami makatulog sa pagbabantay lalo kung may clogged nose.
10. Totoo yung sinasabi palagi ng nga matatanda na nakakatanggal ng pagod yung anak mo na ngingitian ka pagdating mo sa bahay after a long day's work.


Totoo tong mga sinabi mo bro? When we had our first baby ang daming adjustment! Sa pagbuhat ng baby kailangan daw supported ang neck and sa may waist-butt area! Eh mag 3 months na nun si baby di ko pa rin alam mag buhat and dapat daw wag palaging naka higa ng supine ng matagal para hindi daw ma flat yung ulo and most of all NAREALIZED ko na Kulang na yung income ko para sa aming TATLO so I have to look for a Job na maprovide ko ang pangangailangan ng pamilya ko lalong lalo na ni baby!
Title: Re: Things You Learned About When You Became A Dad
Post by: outcastblueboy on February 28, 2018, 12:07:39 PM
Quote from: Alfred015 on February 28, 2018, 11:58:12 AM
Quote from: den0saur on February 28, 2018, 11:14:11 AM
Hello!

Post niyo dito yung mga bagong natutunan o nalaman niyo mula ng naging tatay kayo - things you did not know were needed to do or even existed.

Eto sa akin:

1. Mabilis magpump ang heart ng baby.
2. Nakakapamulubi ang infant formula milk.
3. Mamumulubi ka rin sa diapers pala.
4. May pamahiin pala na after 1 year pa pwedeng pagupitan ng buhok ang bata.
5. Nakakaiyak pala pag first time mo syang makita na kinukuhanan ng blood sample for newborn screening tsaka pag kelangan ng meds na iiinject.
6. May instances na mukhang banlag o duling ang bata pero normal lang pala yun kasi hindi pa fully developed ang facial features nya. Ero it's vetter to consult a pedia-optha.
7. Kawawang kawawa ang bata when they start teething.
8. For newborns, wag daw iki-kiss ang bata lalo sa mouth at hands kasi baka mahawa sya ng kung anong sakit na meron yung adult, hindi pa ganun kalakas immune system nya kaya delikado.
9. Pinakahirap ako pag may ubo at sipon ang bata. Halos di kami makatulog sa pagbabantay lalo kung may clogged nose.
10. Totoo yung sinasabi palagi ng nga matatanda na nakakatanggal ng pagod yung anak mo na ngingitian ka pagdating mo sa bahay after a long day's work.


Totoo tong mga sinabi mo bro? When we had our first baby ang daming adjustment! Sa pagbuhat ng baby kailangan daw supported ang neck and sa may waist-butt area! Eh mag 3 months na nun si baby di ko pa rin alam mag buhat and dapat daw wag palaging naka higa ng supine ng matagal para hindi daw ma flat yung ulo and most of all NAREALIZED ko na Kulang na yung income ko para sa aming TATLO so I have to look for a Job na maprovide ko ang pangangailangan ng pamilya ko lalong lalo na ni baby!

Maturity ay dumagdag din nung naging daddy na ano, from me to WE centered
Title: Re: Things You Learned About When You Became A Dad
Post by: den0saur on February 28, 2018, 12:51:34 PM
Quote from: Alfred015

Totoo tong mga sinabi mo bro? When we had our first baby ang daming adjustment! Sa pagbuhat ng baby kailangan daw supported ang neck and sa may waist-butt area! Eh mag 3 months na nun si baby di ko pa rin alam mag buhat and dapat daw wag palaging naka higa ng supine ng matagal para hindi daw ma flat yung ulo and most of all NAREALIZED ko na Kulang na yung income ko para sa aming TATLO so I have to look for a Job na maprovide ko ang pangangailangan ng pamilya ko lalong lalo na ni baby!

Luckily sa akin, nakarga ko naman nang maayos hehe. Pero naalala ko tuwing kukunin ko/ibibigay sakin ng nurse, inaalalayan nya talaga ako para mahawakan ko nang maayos. Tama, yung support ng sa likod dapat andun. Tapos yung minsan daw itatagilif mo pag natutulog para di maflat ang ulo tsaka para di matuyuan ng pawis ang likod.
At oo, ako din lumipat ng work para dagdag income. Iba na talaga eh, bukod sa baby needs (milk, diapers, vaccines, check ups), nadagdagan na rin ng yaya kasi walang mag aalaga lalo at nagwowork kaming mag-asawa.
Title: Re: Things You Learned About When You Became A Dad
Post by: Alfred015 on February 28, 2018, 12:57:57 PM



Luckily sa akin, nakarga ko naman nang maayos hehe. Pero naalala ko tuwing kukunin ko/ibibigay sakin ng nurse, inaalalayan nya talaga ako para mahawakan ko nang maayos. Tama, yung support ng sa likod dapat andun. Tapos yung minsan daw itatagilif mo pag natutulog para di maflat ang ulo tsaka para di matuyuan ng pawis ang likod.
At oo, ako din lumipat ng work para dagdag income. Iba na talaga eh, bukod sa baby needs (milk, diapers, vaccines, check ups), nadagdagan na rin ng yaya kasi walang mag aalaga lalo at nagwowork kaming mag-asawa.
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Ganyan talaga bro! Hindi talaga madaling magka pamilya pero sulit naman lalo na kung napapalaki mong maayos yung anak mo ang sarap sa pakiramdam! iwas na rin sa bisyo kasi iba na ang priority! Pero syempre di pa rin maiiwasan na may away kami ni misis pero nadadaan naman sa mabuting usapan.. Konting lambing lang o kaya ibili ko lang flowers okay na kami.
Title: Re: Things You Learned About When You Became A Dad
Post by: den0saur on February 28, 2018, 01:09:39 PM
Haha oo, tama yung iwas sa bisyo. Hahahaha. Kasi wala ka na talagang time na gumala. Kung meron man, you'd rather just stay at home at makipagkulitan sa anak mo.
Title: Re: Things You Learned About When You Became A Dad
Post by: Alfred015 on February 28, 2018, 01:14:55 PM
Quote from: den0saur on February 28, 2018, 01:09:39 PM
Haha oo, tama yung iwas sa bisyo. Hahahaha. Kasi wala ka na talagang time na gumala. Kung meron man, you'd rather just stay at home at makipagkulitan sa anak mo.

An ideal father, indeed. From time to time naiinvite pa din naman ng mga tropa pero kailangan ng permission ni commander.  Kung pumayag sasaglit lang siguro para magpakita lang then uwi din para makasama ang pamilya lalo pat isang araw lang ang day off. Kaya need to spend it with my family instead.
Title: Re: Things You Learned About When You Became A Dad
Post by: den0saur on February 28, 2018, 02:21:18 PM
^Far from ideal. Yun ang goal hehe. Nagkakaron din naman ng mga misunderstandings with kumander pero syempre inaayos pa rin. Yung sa mga gimik naman, importante din kasi na may oras pa rin tayo para sa ibang tao. Nakwento ko na rin ata dito yun sa forum hahahaha.
Title: Re: Things You Learned About When You Became A Dad
Post by: bokalto on February 28, 2018, 10:42:22 PM
Quote from: den0saur on February 28, 2018, 02:21:18 PM
^Far from ideal. Yun ang goal hehe. Nagkakaron din naman ng mga misunderstandings with kumander pero syempre inaayos pa rin. Yung sa mga gimik naman, importante din kasi na may oras pa rin tayo para sa ibang tao. Nakwento ko na rin ata dito yun sa forum hahahaha.


Naikwento mo na yung mga hanash mo sa buhay. Hahaha!!

Sagot sa tanong mo..
Nung pinanganak na yung panganay namin, una kong narealize, shet tatay na nga ako... Haha.
Pangalawa, shet nanay na ang asawa ko!!!
And the rest is history.. Haha.. In close communication kami palagi sa pedia namin. Super strict kami sa pag sunod sa mga bakuna and all. Ako madalas magpanic kapag feeling ko may sakit yung anak namin. Yung misis ko ang chill na chill lang.
Malaking tulong ang breastfeesing kasi healthy na sa baby tipid pa sa bulsa. Kaya muntikan ko na ipapatay lahat ng pusa sa barangay namin nung nakagat ng pusa yung misis ko nung 9th month breastfeeding kay baby. Kailangan itigil yung breastfeeding dahil mag undergo ng seriea of anti rabies shots si misis.. Just to be safe na rin kay baby.. Ay shet habana ng kwento ko. Hahaha. K. Tnx. Bye.

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Title: Re: Things You Learned About When You Became A Dad
Post by: Alfred015 on March 01, 2018, 07:32:30 AM



Naikwento mo na yung mga hanash mo sa buhay. Hahaha!!

Sagot sa tanong mo..
Nung pinanganak na yung panganay namin, una kong narealize, shet tatay na nga ako... Haha.
Pangalawa, shet nanay na ang asawa ko!!!
And the rest is history.. Haha.. In close communication kami palagi sa pedia namin. Super strict kami sa pag sunod sa mga bakuna and all. Ako madalas magpanic kapag feeling ko may sakit yung anak namin. Yung misis ko ang chill na chill lang.
Malaking tulong ang breastfeesing kasi healthy na sa baby tipid pa sa bulsa. Kaya muntikan ko na ipapatay lahat ng pusa sa barangay namin nung nakagat ng pusa yung misis ko nung 9th month breastfeeding kay baby. Kailangan itigil yung breastfeeding dahil mag undergo ng seriea of anti rabies shots si misis.. Just to be safe na rin kay baby.. Ay shet habana ng kwento ko. Hahaha. K. Tnx. Bye.

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Pre ang masasabi ko lang NAPAKABAIT mo kasi pusa lang naisipan mong ipapatay kung sakali at di kasama may ari hahaha
Title: Re: Things You Learned About When You Became A Dad
Post by: outcastblueboy on March 01, 2018, 12:00:07 PM
Wow nakakatuwa naman ang mga daddy sharings ninyo dito 😀
Title: Re: Things You Learned About When You Became A Dad
Post by: pepegagasusu on August 20, 2018, 01:39:01 AM
1. nalaman ko di na ako pwede pa carefree
2. mahirap pala gumala pag may anak
3. di na ako basta basta maka sama sa lakad ni tropa
4. need mag tipid
5. mas mahal ko anak ko kaysa sa asawa ko


mag two yrs old palang anak ko hehe
Title: Re: Things You Learned About When You Became A Dad
Post by: Peps on August 20, 2018, 09:30:12 AM
Hmm gusto ko din malaman ito

Mas mahal ba talaga ng mga tatay anak nila kesa sa asawa nila? Dami din kasi akong kilalang ganito


*yoko ng safe answer na pareho lang* lol
Title: Re: Things You Learned About When You Became A Dad
Post by: blueboi on August 20, 2018, 11:04:04 AM
nangilid nang slight yung luha ko reading this. me and my wife are very excited to have our first baby kaso di pa kami pinagpapala ni Lord. siguro pineprepare pa kami. i must admit reading this i realize malaking adjustment ang pagiging daddy. baka sabi ni Lord, di pa ako mature enough para maging ama, haha. anyway, sana, soon, makapagshare na rin ako ng mga natutunan ko from my personal experience.
Title: Re: Things You Learned About When You Became A Dad
Post by: den0saur on August 20, 2018, 04:21:39 PM
Quote from: Peps on August 20, 2018, 09:30:12 AM
Hmm gusto ko din malaman ito

Mas mahal ba talaga ng mga tatay anak nila kesa sa asawa nila? Dami din kasi akong kilalang ganito


*yoko ng safe answer na pareho lang* lol

ISANG MALAKING OO!

Pero alam ko naman na hindi dapat pero kasi inlab na inlab ako sa anak ko.


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Title: Re: Things You Learned About When You Became A Dad
Post by: den0saur on August 20, 2018, 04:24:20 PM
Quote from: blueboi on August 20, 2018, 11:04:04 AM
nangilid nang slight yung luha ko reading this. me and my wife are very excited to have our first baby kaso di pa kami pinagpapala ni Lord. siguro pineprepare pa kami. i must admit reading this i realize malaking adjustment ang pagiging daddy. baka sabi ni Lord, di pa ako mature enough para maging ama, haha. anyway, sana, soon, makapagshare na rin ako ng mga natutunan ko from my personal experience.
Nobody is ever prepared, I'm telling you. Pag naandyan na, tsaka ka biglang magiging "tatay" in every sense of it.
Siguro nga hindi pa lang talaga panahon. Your time will come, brother. Darating din yan. Good luck!


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Title: Re: Things You Learned About When You Became A Dad
Post by: Peps on August 20, 2018, 07:12:26 PM
Quote from: den0saur on August 20, 2018, 04:21:39 PM
Quote from: Peps on August 20, 2018, 09:30:12 AM
Hmm gusto ko din malaman ito

Mas mahal ba talaga ng mga tatay anak nila kesa sa asawa nila? Dami din kasi akong kilalang ganito


*yoko ng safe answer na pareho lang* lol

ISANG MALAKING OO!

Pero alam ko naman na hindi dapat pero kasi inlab na inlab ako sa anak ko.


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Sabagay nung namatay pamangkin ko mas maiyak talaga yung kuya ko that time, ni hindi nga nya matignan pamangkin ko, humahagulgol lang siya sa sulok ng hospital.

Saka nabasa ko based sa US studies sa mga mag bf/gf na nagpapa abort, mas natotrauma daw ang mga lalaki
Title: Re: Things You Learned About When You Became A Dad
Post by: Matthew09 on August 23, 2018, 09:25:44 AM
Quote from: den0saur on February 28, 2018, 11:14:11 AM
Hello!

Post niyo dito yung mga bagong natutunan o nalaman niyo mula ng naging tatay kayo - things you did not know were needed to do or even existed.

Eto sa akin:

1. Mabilis magpump ang heart ng baby.
2. Nakakapamulubi ang infant formula milk.
3. Mamumulubi ka rin sa diapers pala.
4. May pamahiin pala na after 1 year pa pwedeng pagupitan ng buhok ang bata.
5. Nakakaiyak pala pag first time mo syang makita na kinukuhanan ng blood sample for newborn screening tsaka pag kelangan ng meds na iiinject.
6. May instances na mukhang banlag o duling ang bata pero normal lang pala yun kasi hindi pa fully developed ang facial features nya. Ero it's vetter to consult a pedia-optha.
7. Kawawang kawawa ang bata when they start teething.
8. For newborns, wag daw iki-kiss ang bata lalo sa mouth at hands kasi baka mahawa sya ng kung anong sakit na meron yung adult, hindi pa ganun kalakas immune system nya kaya delikado.
9. Pinakahirap ako pag may ubo at sipon ang bata. Halos di kami makatulog sa pagbabantay lalo kung may clogged nose.
10. Totoo yung sinasabi palagi ng nga matatanda na nakakatanggal ng pagod yung anak mo na ngingitian ka pagdating mo sa bahay after a long day's work.
Thanks for sharing bro.. not yet a father but this will help us na soon to be a daddy. Nakaka excite at every time na makakakita ako sa mga may baby naiinggit ako, hehe sabi ko kay misis balang araw magkakaron din tayo nyan...dahil dito sa post lalo tuloy ako na excite. [emoji4]

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Title: Re: Things You Learned About When You Became A Dad
Post by: den0saur on January 15, 2019, 10:44:11 AM
Chris,

Share. Gusto ko marinig from you. Haha


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Title: Re: Things You Learned About When You Became A Dad
Post by: outcastblueboy on January 15, 2019, 11:12:41 AM
Share lang mga daddy bros! Maganda kasi from your firsthand exp
Title: Re: Things You Learned About When You Became A Dad
Post by: Chris on January 16, 2019, 12:22:18 PM
Quote from: den0saur on January 15, 2019, 10:44:11 AM
Chris,

Share. Gusto ko marinig from you. Haha


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Den - so far, the hardest part ng married life ko ay raising a kid. Expectation ko is around 9/10 ang difficulty, in reality parang nasa mga 20 ang difficulty level hahaha.

Things I learned:

- Being selfless. Before it used to be me me me. Ngayon, I sometimes forget myself because it's all about the baby. It's so hard that I even feel depressed sometimes, I gained a lot of weight, ate a lot, lost time to exercise and all those me times were gone. I hope to bring my me time back (hopefully this 2019) kaso maliit pa si baby. We'll see.

- Baby wants mom for sleep time and cuddling, but he wants DAD for playing, adventure and thrill. Sometimes nagtatampo ako pag mas preferred nya mom for sleeping, pero that's the reality of life. Kids prefer their mom to soothe them but they prefer their dads for FUN. Not a bad thing if you think about it.

- Pee and poop are everywhere. You have to clean it. Medyo hands-on parent kasi talaga ako so hawak kung hawak sa dumi! LOL. (I know right? Where was the cool Chris before?) But then again, that's part of growing up and being more matured.

- Bukod sa paglinis ng poop, pinakamahirap magpaligo. Kasi madulas so dapat ingat ingat lagi.

- Kids need to bond with their parents. You need to set time to play with them. Wag text ng text FB ng FB. They want to play WITH YOU not with their inanimate TOYS.

- You should teach them to socialize with other kids.

- Even as a baby, I bring him to Church and teach him to pray. Kahit di pa nya naiintindihan, he needs to slowly get the habit of listening (and talking) to God.

- Bawasan ang too much gadget, screen or TV time. Let them play with non-tech toys, games and activities. They need it for their motor skills.

- Wag masyado maselan sa food. During my first few months as a dad, my wife and I OBEYED everything that the PEDIA said. Hands down lahat ng sinabi nya. However my baby lost weight kasi masyado maselan sa food. So dapat pala, pakainin ng pakainin kasi growing kid nga! Experience is the best teacher so listen to tips coming from lolo / lola (that is your parents) because they know how to raise a kid. Napalaki nga kayo, so malamang maayos naman ang tips nila sa pagpapalaki.

- Once magka-baby, bawas na ang travel. Kasi una, super inconvenient. Sisimba lang kami 2 bag dala namin plus stroller. How much more kung out-of-town or out-of-the-country travel? I went to FIFA World Cup Russia 2018 last year (with the whole family) and guess what, isang buong LARGE luggage ang laman lang gamit ni baby. May stroller pa. And syempre may sariling luggage pa kaming mag-asawa.

- Gastos! It's so hard to budget, because daming gastos.

*With all the difficulties I mentioned above, I really wonder how young/teenage parents do it and I'm impressed by their ability to raise a kid at such a young age. Ako kasi if I were in my teens or early 20s, I wouldn't think I'd be suitable enough to be a parent. I'm not prepared physically, mentally and emotionally. Di ko kakayanin sa totoo lang. But now, that I'm more matured and grown-up, mas kaya ko na ihandle siguro (kahit hirap pa rin).

So yes, pinag-iisipan talaga ang pagkakaroon ng baby.

But on the bright side:

- Seeing your baby smile at you is the best thing in the world. Kahit sobrang pagod ka na sa kanya, pero pag nginitian ka na or tumawa, SOLVE na lahat.

- When your baby cries pag papasok ka na sa office, you are torn between going to work and staying at home. You realize that this tiny little human NEEDS you because you ARE EVERYTHING to him.

-When you come home, bubuksan ko pa lang pinto, naririnig ko na na sumisigaw na si baby ng DADA. (he's still trying to say Daddy) and then pagbukas ng pinto tatakbo sayo at aakap sayo - and YES guys, that is one of the best FEELINGS in the world.


So far ito. MARAMI pang iba. hehehe.
Title: Re: Things You Learned About When You Became A Dad
Post by: outcastblueboy on January 16, 2019, 02:31:17 PM
Quote from: Chris on January 16, 2019, 12:22:18 PM
Quote from: den0saur on January 15, 2019, 10:44:11 AM
Chris,

Share. Gusto ko marinig from you. Haha


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Den - so far, the hardest part ng married life ko ay raising a kid. Expectation ko is around 9/10 ang difficulty, in reality parang nasa mga 20 ang difficulty level hahaha.

Things I learned:

- Being selfless. Before it used to be me me me. Ngayon, I sometimes forget myself because it's all about the baby. It's so hard that I even feel depressed sometimes, I gained a lot of weight, ate a lot, lost time to exercise and all those me times were gone. I hope to bring my me time back (hopefully this 2019) kaso maliit pa si baby. We'll see.

- Baby wants mom for sleep time and cuddling, but he wants DAD for playing, adventure and thrill. Sometimes nagtatampo ako pag mas preferred nya mom for sleeping, pero that's the reality of life. Kids prefer their mom to soothe them but they prefer their dads for FUN. Not a bad thing if you think about it.

- Pee and poop are everywhere. You have to clean it. Medyo hands-on parent kasi talaga ako so hawak kung hawak sa dumi! LOL. (I know right? Where was the cool Chris before?) But then again, that's part of growing up and being more matured.

- Bukod sa paglinis ng poop, pinakamahirap magpaligo. Kasi madulas so dapat ingat ingat lagi.

- Kids need to bond with their parents. You need to set time to play with them. Wag text ng text FB ng FB. They want to play WITH YOU not with their inanimate TOYS.

- You should teach them to socialize with other kids.

- Even as a baby, I bring him to Church and teach him to pray. Kahit di pa nya naiintindihan, he needs to slowly get the habit of listening (and talking) to God.

- Bawasan ang too much gadget, screen or TV time. Let them play with non-tech toys, games and activities. They need it for their motor skills.

- Wag masyado maselan sa food. During my first few months as a dad, my wife and I OBEYED everything that the PEDIA said. Hands down lahat ng sinabi nya. However my baby lost weight kasi masyado maselan sa food. So dapat pala, pakainin ng pakainin kasi growing kid nga! Experience is the best teacher so listen to tips coming from lolo / lola (that is your parents) because they know how to raise a kid. Napalaki nga kayo, so malamang maayos naman ang tips nila sa pagpapalaki.

- Once magka-baby, bawas na ang travel. Kasi una, super inconvenient. Sisimba lang kami 2 bag dala namin plus stroller. How much more kung out-of-town or out-of-the-country travel? I went to FIFA World Cup Russia 2018 last year (with the whole family) and guess what, isang buong LARGE luggage ang laman lang gamit ni baby. May stroller pa. And syempre may sariling luggage pa kaming mag-asawa.

- Gastos! It's so hard to budget, because daming gastos.

*With all the difficulties I mentioned above, I really wonder how young/teenage parents do it and I'm impressed by their ability to raise a kid at such a young age. Ako kasi if I were in my teens or early 20s, I wouldn't think I'd be suitable enough to be a parent. I'm not prepared physically, mentally and emotionally. Di ko kakayanin sa totoo lang. But now, that I'm more matured and grown-up, mas kaya ko na ihandle siguro (kahit hirap pa rin).

So yes, pinag-iisipan talaga ang pagkakaroon ng baby.

But on the bright side:

- Seeing your baby smile at you is the best thing in the world. Kahit sobrang pagod ka na sa kanya, pero pag nginitian ka na or tumawa, SOLVE na lahat.

- When your baby cries pag papasok ka na sa office, you are torn between going to work and staying at home. You realize that this tiny little human NEEDS you because you ARE EVERYTHING to him.

-When you come home, bubuksan ko pa lang pinto, naririnig ko na na sumisigaw na si baby ng DADA. (he's still trying to say Daddy) and then pagbukas ng pinto tatakbo sayo at aakap sayo - and YES guys, that is one of the best FEELINGS in the world.


So far ito. MARAMI pang iba. hehehe.

Napakagandang pagbabahagi!
Title: Re: Things You Learned About When You Became A Dad
Post by: Chris on January 17, 2019, 10:01:09 AM
Thank you!

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Title: Re: Things You Learned About When You Became A Dad
Post by: den0saur on January 17, 2019, 10:55:44 AM
Agree on everything you shared. Kami, Overnight in Tagaytay lang, puno ang SUV ng gamit ng baby samantalang isang medium-sized maleta lang ang gamit namin mag-asawa.
But it gets better. Ngayon, nakakagala na kami sa mall even without the stroller. Isang backpack na lang.
minsan lang, nakakamiss yung may karga ka na baby. Hehehe


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Title: Re: Things You Learned About When You Became A Dad
Post by: buknoy on January 17, 2019, 09:26:49 PM
Kinabahan ako reading these. My panganay is 9 year old boy. Buntis si Misisn ngayon and feeling ko nakalimutan ko na lahat. Natatakot na ako mag karga ng new born, naiisip ko kung paano ko nga ba sya pinaliguan dati?? Haha. Parang first time ko ulit.

Yung panganaynamin we started calling him kuya and feel na feel nya. Sabi nya tutulong daw sya sapag aalaga and bubugbugin nya daw mangbu-bully sa kapatid nya.

Di ko alam. Excited ako na sobrang kabado. Sabi naman ng mga friends ko kusang babalik yung parent skills kapag nandyan na.


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Title: Re: Things You Learned About When You Became A Dad
Post by: outcastblueboy on January 17, 2019, 10:07:29 PM
Quote from: buknoy on January 17, 2019, 09:26:49 PM
Kinabahan ako reading these. My panganay is 9 year old boy. Buntis si Misisn ngayon and feeling ko nakalimutan ko na lahat. Natatakot na ako mag karga ng new born, naiisip ko kung paano ko nga ba sya pinaliguan dati?? Haha. Parang first time ko ulit.

Yung panganaynamin we started calling him kuya and feel na feel nya. Sabi nya tutulong daw sya sapag aalaga and bubugbugin nya daw mangbu-bully sa kapatid nya.

Di ko alam. Excited ako na sobrang kabado. Sabi naman ng mga friends ko kusang babalik yung parent skills kapag nandyan na.


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Congrats sa pagiging daddy ulit!
Title: Re: Things You Learned About When You Became A Dad
Post by: Chris on January 21, 2019, 06:37:44 PM
Quote from: buknoy on January 17, 2019, 09:26:49 PM
Kinabahan ako reading these. My panganay is 9 year old boy. Buntis si Misisn ngayon and feeling ko nakalimutan ko na lahat. Natatakot na ako mag karga ng new born, naiisip ko kung paano ko nga ba sya pinaliguan dati?? Haha. Parang first time ko ulit.

Yung panganaynamin we started calling him kuya and feel na feel nya. Sabi nya tutulong daw sya sapag aalaga and bubugbugin nya daw mangbu-bully sa kapatid nya.

Di ko alam. Excited ako na sobrang kabado. Sabi naman ng mga friends ko kusang babalik yung parent skills kapag nandyan na.


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Congrats! 2nd baby? Layo rin ng gap if ever. hehehehe. :)

Pero oo nga, ako 1 year and 3 months pa lang baby ko, pero di na yata ako marunong maghawak ng new born. I know that feeling. Parang sobrang sensitive and vulnerable kasi pag new born talaga.

Anyway, congrats again! :)
Title: Re: Things You Learned About When You Became A Dad
Post by: buknoy on January 23, 2019, 10:10:24 PM
Quote from: Chris on January 21, 2019, 06:37:44 PM
Quote from: buknoy on January 17, 2019, 09:26:49 PM
Kinabahan ako reading these. My panganay is 9 year old boy. Buntis si Misisn ngayon and feeling ko nakalimutan ko na lahat. Natatakot na ako mag karga ng new born, naiisip ko kung paano ko nga ba sya pinaliguan dati?? Haha. Parang first time ko ulit.

Yung panganaynamin we started calling him kuya and feel na feel nya. Sabi nya tutulong daw sya sapag aalaga and bubugbugin nya daw mangbu-bully sa kapatid nya.

Di ko alam. Excited ako na sobrang kabado. Sabi naman ng mga friends ko kusang babalik yung parent skills kapag nandyan na.


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Congrats! 2nd baby? Layo rin ng gap if ever. hehehehe. :)

Pero oo nga, ako 1 year and 3 months pa lang baby ko, pero di na yata ako marunong maghawak ng new born. I know that feeling. Parang sobrang sensitive and vulnerable kasi pag new born talaga.

Anyway, congrats again! :)


Thank you Chris. Yes, 2nd baby. We've been planning for a second child since my first born turned 5.

We tried everything. Kapag fertile si wifey kahit puyat at pagod gawa pa din ng baby. Walang tigil yun. Minsan out of town din namin ginagawa baka sakaling mabuo. Nagbakasakali din kami sa motel pero wala pa din.

Pero last september nung fertile week nya. Nag strategize kami. Di kami nag siping dun sa first 4 days, di din ako nag masturbate. Then on the last day na fertile sya, sa bahay lang kami. In-enjoy lang namin yung moment. Feeling porn star ako nun. Hayok na hayok ako kasi tagal walang release. Kumbaga di kami nag sex para makabuo ng baby. Nag make love kami like there is no tomorrow. Sobrang hingal ako nung nag climax. Yung tipong di talaga ako makasalita.

Then nung october na 1st day nya dapat ng mens di sya nagkaroon. Palagi kaming may preg test kit sa bahay. When we tested, malabo pero may 2 lines. Bumili ako ng 7 na preg test kit na iba iba ang brand. Lahat double lines pero malabo talaga.  After 3 days nag test ulit kami using 3 different brands ulit. 2 lines talaga pero this time medyo malinaw na.

We went to her ob-gyne and the doctor confirmed na daddy na ulit ako. I can't contain my emotions. Pagdating sa car dun ako umiyak. Iba yung feeling. Sobrang blessed.


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Title: Re: Things You Learned About When You Became A Dad
Post by: outcastblueboy on January 24, 2019, 10:03:41 AM
Quote from: buknoy on January 23, 2019, 10:10:24 PM
Quote from: Chris on January 21, 2019, 06:37:44 PM
Quote from: buknoy on January 17, 2019, 09:26:49 PM
Kinabahan ako reading these. My panganay is 9 year old boy. Buntis si Misisn ngayon and feeling ko nakalimutan ko na lahat. Natatakot na ako mag karga ng new born, naiisip ko kung paano ko nga ba sya pinaliguan dati?? Haha. Parang first time ko ulit.

Yung panganaynamin we started calling him kuya and feel na feel nya. Sabi nya tutulong daw sya sapag aalaga and bubugbugin nya daw mangbu-bully sa kapatid nya.

Di ko alam. Excited ako na sobrang kabado. Sabi naman ng mga friends ko kusang babalik yung parent skills kapag nandyan na.


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Congrats! 2nd baby? Layo rin ng gap if ever. hehehehe. :)

Pero oo nga, ako 1 year and 3 months pa lang baby ko, pero di na yata ako marunong maghawak ng new born. I know that feeling. Parang sobrang sensitive and vulnerable kasi pag new born talaga.

Anyway, congrats again! :)


Thank you Chris. Yes, 2nd baby. We've been planning for a second child since my first born turned 5.

We tried everything. Kapag fertile si wifey kahit puyat at pagod gawa pa din ng baby. Walang tigil yun. Minsan out of town din namin ginagawa baka sakaling mabuo. Nagbakasakali din kami sa motel pero wala pa din.

Pero last september nung fertile week nya. Nag strategize kami. Di kami nag siping dun sa first 4 days, di din ako nag masturbate. Then on the last day na fertile sya, sa bahay lang kami. In-enjoy lang namin yung moment. Feeling porn star ako nun. Hayok na hayok ako kasi tagal walang release. Kumbaga di kami nag sex para makabuo ng baby. Nag make love kami like there is no tomorrow. Sobrang hingal ako nung nag climax. Yung tipong di talaga ako makasalita.

Then nung october na 1st day nya dapat ng mens di sya nagkaroon. Palagi kaming may preg test kit sa bahay. When we tested, malabo pero may 2 lines. Bumili ako ng 7 na preg test kit na iba iba ang brand. Lahat double lines pero malabo talaga.  After 3 days nag test ulit kami using 3 different brands ulit. 2 lines talaga pero this time medyo malinaw na.

We went to her ob-gyne and the doctor confirmed na daddy na ulit ako. I can't contain my emotions. Pagdating sa car dun ako umiyak. Iba yung feeling. Sobrang blessed.


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Wow! Heartwarming story buknoy! Congrats! Ako naman pinagdarasal ko mga friends kong hirap magkaanak. Good for you!
Title: Re: Things You Learned About When You Became A Dad
Post by: blueboi on June 17, 2019, 03:03:02 PM
Quote from: den0saur on August 20, 2018, 04:24:20 PM
Quote from: blueboi on August 20, 2018, 11:04:04 AM
nangilid nang slight yung luha ko reading this. me and my wife are very excited to have our first baby kaso di pa kami pinagpapala ni Lord. siguro pineprepare pa kami. i must admit reading this i realize malaking adjustment ang pagiging daddy. baka sabi ni Lord, di pa ako mature enough para maging ama, haha. anyway, sana, soon, makapagshare na rin ako ng mga natutunan ko from my personal experience.
Nobody is ever prepared, I'm telling you. Pag naandyan na, tsaka ka biglang magiging "tatay" in every sense of it.
Siguro nga hindi pa lang talaga panahon. Your time will come, brother. Darating din yan. Good luck!


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so in a few days i'm gonna be a daddy! 37 weeks na si wifey and we're both excited and anxious about the baby... reading all of your sharings made me even more excited, and scared too... may konting complications, but the OB said very possible pa rin ang normal delivery... just praying for a safe delivery and a healthy baby boy... nasabi ko na bang sobrang excited na ako? haha
Title: Re: Things You Learned About When You Became A Dad
Post by: Chris on June 18, 2019, 11:15:19 AM
Quote from: blueboi on June 17, 2019, 03:03:02 PM
Quote from: den0saur on August 20, 2018, 04:24:20 PM
Quote from: blueboi on August 20, 2018, 11:04:04 AM
nangilid nang slight yung luha ko reading this. me and my wife are very excited to have our first baby kaso di pa kami pinagpapala ni Lord. siguro pineprepare pa kami. i must admit reading this i realize malaking adjustment ang pagiging daddy. baka sabi ni Lord, di pa ako mature enough para maging ama, haha. anyway, sana, soon, makapagshare na rin ako ng mga natutunan ko from my personal experience.
Nobody is ever prepared, I'm telling you. Pag naandyan na, tsaka ka biglang magiging "tatay" in every sense of it.
Siguro nga hindi pa lang talaga panahon. Your time will come, brother. Darating din yan. Good luck!


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so in a few days i'm gonna be a daddy! 37 weeks na si wifey and we're both excited and anxious about the baby... reading all of your sharings made me even more excited, and scared too... may konting complications, but the OB said very possible pa rin ang normal delivery... just praying for a safe delivery and a healthy baby boy... nasabi ko na bang sobrang excited na ako? haha


Wow last message mo di pa buntis wifey. Ngayon manganganak na? Congratulations!!! Excited ako para sayo.
Title: Re: Things You Learned About When You Became A Dad
Post by: blueboi on June 18, 2019, 05:35:10 PM
Quote from: Chris on June 18, 2019, 11:15:19 AM
Quote from: blueboi on June 17, 2019, 03:03:02 PM
Quote from: den0saur on August 20, 2018, 04:24:20 PM
Quote from: blueboi on August 20, 2018, 11:04:04 AM
nangilid nang slight yung luha ko reading this. me and my wife are very excited to have our first baby kaso di pa kami pinagpapala ni Lord. siguro pineprepare pa kami. i must admit reading this i realize malaking adjustment ang pagiging daddy. baka sabi ni Lord, di pa ako mature enough para maging ama, haha. anyway, sana, soon, makapagshare na rin ako ng mga natutunan ko from my personal experience.
Nobody is ever prepared, I'm telling you. Pag naandyan na, tsaka ka biglang magiging "tatay" in every sense of it.
Siguro nga hindi pa lang talaga panahon. Your time will come, brother. Darating din yan. Good luck!


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so in a few days i'm gonna be a daddy! 37 weeks na si wifey and we're both excited and anxious about the baby... reading all of your sharings made me even more excited, and scared too... may konting complications, but the OB said very possible pa rin ang normal delivery... just praying for a safe delivery and a healthy baby boy... nasabi ko na bang sobrang excited na ako? haha


Wow last message mo di pa buntis wifey. Ngayon manganganak na? Congratulations!!! Excited ako para sayo.

thanks thanks! we were trying nun... baka sobrang excited lang kami ni wifey... we tried everything, to no avail... pero when we stopped trying to have a baby and just enjoyed our shared intimacy, ayun, nakabuo din... hindi talaga ako magaling magrespond to pressure, hahaha...

excited na rin ako... sobrang daming insight nung ni-share mo na experience mo, pati yung ibang nashare dito... will probably come back to share some of my experiences, too... and will be back to ask for some daddy tips, hahaha...
Title: Re: Things You Learned About When You Became A Dad
Post by: den0saur on April 23, 2020, 10:32:02 PM
San na kaya si blueboi? I wanna hear his stories haha