Ngyong me trabaho ka na.. nagbibigay k b ng pera sa parents mo every sweldo? How much?
yeap... ako lang inaasahan eh... kung magkano.. basta hindi bababa ng 5k per payday... maraming gastusin.. kulang pa yun.. :(
hindi kame inoobliga ng parents nmin na magbigay ng pera pero from time to time nag grocery ako or on weekends nagdidinner kme ng family.
meron din times na naglalambing sila...pinkamahal ata na nabili ko for them is 40 inch TV
ako ang breadwinner ngayon sa bahay. although wala akong parents na kasama sa bahay.
hindi directly. yung bill ng credit card dumidiretso sa akin.. pero may mga pre-aranged expenses lang ang pwede i-charge dun. hahahaha
uu monthly - 20K fixed pero pag may kailangan pang ibang expenses na kailangan bilhin dpende sa price. Pag bday or may occasion addt'l din iyon
Quote from: pinoybrusko on August 28, 2010, 12:09:31 PM
uu monthly - 20K fixed pero pag may kailangan pang ibang expenses na kailangan bilhin dpende sa price. Pag bday or may occasion addt'l din iyon
wow! mas malaki talaga kita abroad..
I don't give cash to my parents eh. I feel ackward to do that. Kc hinde nmn aq pinalaki sa ganyng approach. When I was young eh ngalit sakin ang tatay q nung huminge aq ng allowance since tumutulong aq s pg Gawa ng tinapay. Mga 700 pieces a day un at aq din ung bumubuhat ng mga bakal n gngmt s pgluluto at aq dn ang ng lilinis. Sabi ng tatay q eh "Kung gusto mo ng allowance eh kailangan mong bayaran ang pgtira mo d2 at gnun dn s education at pgkain mo!!!". My parents always say "Sa susunod n lng." whenever I ask something.
Kya ayun, I always say "Sa susunod n lng." whenever my mother ask for money.
Pro I give something nmn like appliances at expensive food. Hinde LNG tlga aq ngbbgy ng pera. If they want cash eh uutangin Nla un sa kin.
Quote from: marvinofthefaintsmile on August 28, 2010, 08:58:16 PM
I don't give cash to my parents eh. I feel ackward to do that. Kc hinde nmn aq pinalaki sa ganyng approach. When I was young eh ngalit sakin ang tatay q nung huminge aq ng allowance since tumutulong aq s pg Gawa ng tinapay. Mga 700 pieces a day un at aq din ung bumubuhat ng mga bakal n gngmt s pgluluto at aq dn ang ng lilinis. Sabi ng tatay q eh "Kung gusto mo ng allowance eh kailangan mong bayaran ang pgtira mo d2 at gnun dn s education at pgkain mo!!!". My parents always say "Sa susunod n lng." whenever I ask something.
Kya ayun, I always say "Sa susunod n lng." whenever my mother ask for money.
Pro I give something nmn like appliances at expensive food. Hinde LNG tlga aq ngbbgy ng pera. If they want cash eh uutangin Nla un sa kin.
typical pinoy family. Pero maganda dun you learn to be independent at an early age. Mas ok nga iyon eh kasi solo mo lang talaga pera mo at hinde ka obligated to give just like me nakaasa na talaga sila sa akin kasi matanda na sila at wala din sila source of income.
Quote from: pinoybrusko on August 28, 2010, 09:13:05 PM
Quote from: marvinofthefaintsmile on August 28, 2010, 08:58:16 PM
I don't give cash to my parents eh. I feel ackward to do that. Kc hinde nmn aq pinalaki sa ganyng approach. When I was young eh ngalit sakin ang tatay q nung huminge aq ng allowance since tumutulong aq s pg Gawa ng tinapay. Mga 700 pieces a day un at aq din ung bumubuhat ng mga bakal n gngmt s pgluluto at aq dn ang ng lilinis. Sabi ng tatay q eh "Kung gusto mo ng allowance eh kailangan mong bayaran ang pgtira mo d2 at gnun dn s education at pgkain mo!!!". My parents always say "Sa susunod n lng." whenever I ask something.
Kya ayun, I always say "Sa susunod n lng." whenever my mother ask for money.
Pro I give something nmn like appliances at expensive food. Hinde LNG tlga aq ngbbgy ng pera. If they want cash eh uutangin Nla un sa kin.
typical pinoy family. Pero maganda dun you learn to be independent at an early age. Mas ok nga iyon eh kasi solo mo lang talaga pera mo at hinde ka obligated to give just like me nakaasa na talaga sila sa akin kasi matanda na sila at wala din sila source of income.
ayos talaga pag single ka tas solo mo yung pera.. yun ay kung may pinagkakakitaan naman ang parents mo.. pero kung wala naman diba.. siguro okay parin yung mag-aabot ka paminsan-minsan.
Quote from: judE_Law on August 28, 2010, 10:37:59 PM
Quote from: pinoybrusko on August 28, 2010, 09:13:05 PM
Quote from: marvinofthefaintsmile on August 28, 2010, 08:58:16 PM
I don't give cash to my parents eh. I feel ackward to do that. Kc hinde nmn aq pinalaki sa ganyng approach. When I was young eh ngalit sakin ang tatay q nung huminge aq ng allowance since tumutulong aq s pg Gawa ng tinapay. Mga 700 pieces a day un at aq din ung bumubuhat ng mga bakal n gngmt s pgluluto at aq dn ang ng lilinis. Sabi ng tatay q eh "Kung gusto mo ng allowance eh kailangan mong bayaran ang pgtira mo d2 at gnun dn s education at pgkain mo!!!". My parents always say "Sa susunod n lng." whenever I ask something.
Kya ayun, I always say "Sa susunod n lng." whenever my mother ask for money.
Pro I give something nmn like appliances at expensive food. Hinde LNG tlga aq ngbbgy ng pera. If they want cash eh uutangin Nla un sa kin.
typical pinoy family. Pero maganda dun you learn to be independent at an early age. Mas ok nga iyon eh kasi solo mo lang talaga pera mo at hinde ka obligated to give just like me nakaasa na talaga sila sa akin kasi matanda na sila at wala din sila source of income.
ayos talaga pag single ka tas solo mo yung pera.. yun ay kung may pinagkakakitaan naman ang parents mo.. pero kung wala naman diba.. siguro okay parin yung mag-aabot ka paminsan-minsan.
di pede paminsan minsan gugutumin sila ;D kaya i send money fixed amount every month for their needs and utilities sa bahay like cable, electricity, water, telephone, etc.
Quote from: pinoybrusko on August 29, 2010, 12:41:33 PM
Quote from: judE_Law on August 28, 2010, 10:37:59 PM
Quote from: pinoybrusko on August 28, 2010, 09:13:05 PM
Quote from: marvinofthefaintsmile on August 28, 2010, 08:58:16 PM
I don't give cash to my parents eh. I feel ackward to do that. Kc hinde nmn aq pinalaki sa ganyng approach. When I was young eh ngalit sakin ang tatay q nung huminge aq ng allowance since tumutulong aq s pg Gawa ng tinapay. Mga 700 pieces a day un at aq din ung bumubuhat ng mga bakal n gngmt s pgluluto at aq dn ang ng lilinis. Sabi ng tatay q eh "Kung gusto mo ng allowance eh kailangan mong bayaran ang pgtira mo d2 at gnun dn s education at pgkain mo!!!". My parents always say "Sa susunod n lng." whenever I ask something.
Kya ayun, I always say "Sa susunod n lng." whenever my mother ask for money.
Pro I give something nmn like appliances at expensive food. Hinde LNG tlga aq ngbbgy ng pera. If they want cash eh uutangin Nla un sa kin.
typical pinoy family. Pero maganda dun you learn to be independent at an early age. Mas ok nga iyon eh kasi solo mo lang talaga pera mo at hinde ka obligated to give just like me nakaasa na talaga sila sa akin kasi matanda na sila at wala din sila source of income.
ayos talaga pag single ka tas solo mo yung pera.. yun ay kung may pinagkakakitaan naman ang parents mo.. pero kung wala naman diba.. siguro okay parin yung mag-aabot ka paminsan-minsan.
di pede paminsan minsan gugutumin sila ;D kaya i send money fixed amount every month for their needs and utilities sa bahay like cable, electricity, water, telephone, etc.
tama!!!
Yup! Meron kmeng bakery dati. Ngyn kc e NSA abroad n c
papa. Ble mhrap xa.. Sumaket ang ktwan q nung una qng try. Bale 700 pieces Tinapay Mano manong gngwa un. Mga 5'9" LNG Taas ng yerong bubong nmin tpos meron p kmeng higanteng hurno (oven). Sobrng init. Tpos nglilinis dn aq ng mga metal plates. Hihugasan q un at babnlawan ISA isa. Araw araw
gnun..
I find it unfair kc s mga parents q kc pg ung pnganay nmn ang huminge ng pera eh binbgyan.
Same din s bunso nmn. Ngglit cla pg aq nmn ang
humihinge. So u cnt really blame me. Hehehe.
ok lang iyon hinde ka naman obligated magbigay.
Quote from: marvinofthefaintsmile on August 30, 2010, 07:29:31 PM
Yup! Meron kmeng bakery dati. Ngyn kc e NSA abroad n c
papa. Ble mhrap xa.. Sumaket ang ktwan q nung una qng try. Bale 700 pieces Tinapay Mano manong gngwa un. Mga 5'9" LNG Taas ng yerong bubong nmin tpos meron p kmeng higanteng hurno (oven). Sobrng init. Tpos nglilinis dn aq ng mga metal plates. Hihugasan q un at babnlawan ISA isa. Araw araw
gnun..
I find it unfair kc s mga parents q kc pg ung pnganay nmn ang huminge ng pera eh binbgyan.
Same din s bunso nmn. Ngglit cla pg aq nmn ang
humihinge. So u cnt really blame me. Hehehe.
aaahhh... the middle child syndrome..
may pagka same situation tayo..and I guess true ung sinabi ni Jude na its a middle child syndrome
yes the middle child syndrome is true. laging down at feeling lugi at api.
I felt that nuon bata pa me pero instead of dwelling on it..ginamit ko sya to be a better man.
I decided to look at things on a different perspective. used those things in my benefit and to motivate me to be better at all things.
I could now say that I am stronger.
same here ram! Unlike my brother and sister, I dont have a ninong at ninang (kc ber months na!). I receive no gifts other than my Grandfather's mistress's cash gift. When I want to buy something, my parents say pagipunan q. But when my brother and sister asked soemthing eh bigay kagad. Haha! I can still remember how envy i felt nung lagi silang nakakareceive ng mga gifts from their ninongs and ninangs. At aq lang ang namura ng tatay q pg me away sa magkakapatid. Lagi din bago ang mga gamit nila sa school at sakin ung napaglumaan.. Sa private school din cla nag-aral whereas the public school lang aq (Pero I insist sa private school na nung college! ^_^).
Because of that, I depend on myself more since I found everyone else useless. I rose above the whole family. I gained various ribbons, medals, thropies both in martial arts and academics. I even have a better job than anybody else at home. Kya ayun, dq tlga ma-accept n magbigay ng money since pinaghirapan q un.
Com'on guys, i cried my tears for 20+ years; You can't be mad at me.
tnx fox..
because of that event. I learn to save money! Kya its hard for me to just give huge amounts of money to my parents. Ngbbgay nmn aq pero in food or appliances na form..
One of the biggest challenge na napgdaanan q eh ung "heavily damaged na self esteem" kase lagi aqng pinagagalitan at hinahampas ng kahoy at leather belt na prang wala naqng nagawang tama. Kya in return eh I always have a feeling na mali aq.. Kht na ung mga mga bagay na hinde mahirap intinded like Holidays eh naiicp q n bka me pasok at hinde Holiday. Negative din ang tingin q sa lahat ng mga bagay. Na dapat me maling mangyayare. It took me more than a decade to regain back my self esteem nun..
xenxa n fox. mejo inatake aq ng pagka-emo.
well, after 30 mins nap in the office eh ok na aq. Haha!
di naman ako required magbigay sa parents ko, pero gayunpaman, nagbibigay pa rin ako ng fixed.
voluntarily ko naman yun binibigay kasi i'm not yet married and i still live with them and parang yun na lang din ang contribution ko for my food, utilities, laundry and other expenses.
at saka when you see your parents growing older, you want to give them the best and make them happy. :)
Quote from: Chris on September 01, 2010, 10:53:21 PM
di naman ako required magbigay sa parents ko, pero gayunpaman, nagbibigay pa rin ako ng fixed.
voluntarily ko naman yun binibigay kasi i'm not yet married and i still live with them and parang yun na lang din ang contribution ko for my food, utilities, laundry and other expenses.
at saka when you see your parents growing older, you want to give them the best and make them happy. :)
totally agree
bread and butter plus coffee ako sa amin.
ayos pati coffee kasama
Quote from: Jon on September 02, 2010, 09:39:12 AM
bread and butter plus coffee ako sa amin.
hehehe... ayos.
nanghhinge pa dn sakn c nanay.. naicp q n pg sinunod q ung gusto nyang amount ng money eh aalisin q n lng ung ibang mga gastos q for them. pero hu knows. dpnde p dn sa mood q. hehe.
Quote from: marvinofthefaintsmile on September 03, 2010, 05:33:36 PM
nanghhinge pa dn sakn c nanay.. naicp q n pg sinunod q ung gusto nyang amount ng money eh aalisin q n lng ung ibang mga gastos q for them. pero hu knows. dpnde p dn sa mood q. hehe.
sikreto diyan... kahit konti lang ibibigay mop... sabayan mo lang ng lambing.. maiintindihan ka rin.
Obligado ako eh. No choice. :D
^^ dito naman sa Pinas, Obligado kadalasan ang mga anak eh...
kailangan mag-adap eh.. Hehehe..
mahirap magbigay ng money sa parents kung naranasan mo ang..
1. When I was in prep, nakalimutan ng parents q na me anak silang naghihintay na sunduin sa prep school.. 10AM ang uwian pero sinundo nila aq ng 3PM. Walang baon o pera aqng dala..
2. Father always hit me with leather belt and kahoy ng walis tambo. Then I was tied both my hands and feet at home. Minsan, binibitin nya aq ng patiwarik..
3. Kapag aq nasugatan dahil sa paglalaro eh papaluin muna aq. Later na lang ang pag-treat ng wound.
4. I don't have a ninong at ninang.. I always find myself getting envy to see my brother and sister received gifts from their respective ninongs and ninangs. I receive nothing..
5. When I was something like cellphone, I need to sacrifice a lot of things like skip meals and transportation to school. P20 lang ang baon q nun.. Libo-libo ang isang cp unit.. My brother and sister just ask for a cp from my parents then bigay kgad cla..
I really felt deprived and because of that.. I need to compensate for my loss.. That is to retain all of my hard earned money for myself at least..
Quote from: marvinofthefaintsmile on September 23, 2010, 09:58:36 AM
kailangan mag-adap eh.. Hehehe..
mahirap magbigay ng money sa parents kung naranasan mo ang..
1. When I was in prep, nakalimutan ng parents q na me anak silang naghihintay na sunduin sa prep school.. 10AM ang uwian pero sinundo nila aq ng 3PM. Walang baon o pera aqng dala..
2. Father always hit me with leather belt and kahoy ng walis tambo. Then I was tied both my hands and feet at home. Minsan, binibitin nya aq ng patiwarik..
3. Kapag aq nasugatan dahil sa paglalaro eh papaluin muna aq. Later na lang ang pag-treat ng wound.
4. I don't have a ninong at ninang.. I always find myself getting envy to see my brother and sister received gifts from their respective ninongs and ninangs. I receive nothing..
5. When I was something like cellphone, I need to sacrifice a lot of things like skip meals and transportation to school. P20 lang ang baon q nun.. Libo-libo ang isang cp unit.. My brother and sister just ask for a cp from my parents then bigay kgad cla..
I really felt deprived and because of that.. I need to compensate for my loss.. That is to retain all of my hard earned money for myself at least..
Sad naman. Napatawad mo na ba sila? Mas maganda pa rin mabuhay ng walang kimkim na galit o poot. That's a hard life.
OnTopic:
Ako nag bibigay ng fix regularly + kung may iba pang kailangan for school ng kapatid ko.
OffTopic:
All most same kami ni marvin ng naranasan, kapag ibang kapatid ko yung humingi bigay agad, yung attention ng parents namin nasa kanila lang and parang hindi ako anak.
Kaya nasanay akong mamuhay mag-isa at masama ang loob sa kanila. Nung nagtatrabaho na ko, natanong ako "di mo ba sila na mimiss"; sabi ko, "sanay na ko". Laking Iloilo at dito na ko Manila nagwork.
Pero ngayon napatawad ko na sila, and at times thankful din. Kasi naging malakas akong tao. At nakikita kong mataas ang respeto nila sakin.
@marvin, i think kahit pa-unti unti try to forgive them. If you can't talk to them, at least in yourself make a decision nagusto mo silang patawarin. Hindi ito madali, pero magbubunga ito for sure ng mabuti.
Ang hinanakit kasi sa puso nakakastress and stress leads to sickness. Ikaw rin magkakasakit ka. :)
--opinion ko lang ito ha. ikaw parin masusunod.--
bait mo noyskie tama yan mahirap pag may unforgiveness ikaw ang talo... mas mabeblessed ka pa nyan im sure
ewan q kung napatawad q n cla.. kc for me eh mukang ok nmn kame.. u know, doing the usual things. no problems at all.. its just that na these things are coming to my mind whenever they ask for money.
Quote from: marvinofthefaintsmile on September 23, 2010, 02:08:15 PM
ewan q kung napatawad q n cla.. kc for me eh mukang ok nmn kame.. u know, doing the usual things. no problems at all.. its just that na these things are coming to my mind whenever they ask for money.
kung wala ka nang hinanakit, napatawad mo na sila.
"mas masaya ang buhay na walang pinapasang sama ng loob"
Quote from: noyskie on September 23, 2010, 03:38:39 PM
Quote from: marvinofthefaintsmile on September 23, 2010, 02:08:15 PM
ewan q kung napatawad q n cla.. kc for me eh mukang ok nmn kame.. u know, doing the usual things. no problems at all.. its just that na these things are coming to my mind whenever they ask for money.
kung wala ka nang hinanakit, napatawad mo na sila.
"mas masaya ang buhay na walang pinapasang sama ng loob"
:)
I remember... when I was young.. I used to have a puppy.. This puppy loves me.. One day, my puppy is scavenging food in the trash.. Then when he put his mouth in the plastic, he couldnt remove it.. He began to suffocate.. My mother was there... watching.. Probably enjoying to see the agony of my puppy.. My puppy died.. I found him dead and I remove the plastic bag that covers his mouth... I couldn't do anything.. I felt helpless..
when you experience pain, you'll experience hatred.. this hatred will make you stronger.. I dont want to be helpless, so i trained hard both physically and mentally.. Now, I have an excellent job while having an above average physique.. Since birth, I am alone.. Thus, I need to make myself independent and strong enough to face more pain.
My parents also discourage me from enviting friends at home and having poor friends as they are considered thieves..
I felt these things were taken away from me and now they ask for my money in return? The answer would still remain... NO!
Quote from: marvinofthefaintsmile on September 24, 2010, 09:47:59 AM
I remember... when I was young.. I used to have a puppy.. This puppy loves me.. One day, my puppy is scavenging food in the trash.. Then when he put his mouth in the plastic, he couldnt remove it.. He began to suffocate.. My mother was there... watching.. Probably enjoying to see the agony of my puppy.. My puppy died.. I found him dead and I remove the plastic bag that covers his mouth... I couldn't do anything.. I felt helpless..
when you experience pain, you'll experience hatred.. this hatred will make you stronger.. I dont want to be helpless, so i trained hard both physically and mentally.. Now, I have an excellent job while having an above average physique.. Since birth, I am alone.. Thus, I need to make myself independent and strong enough to face more pain.
My parents also discourage me from enviting friends at home and having poor friends as they are considered thieves..
I felt these things were taken away from me and now they ask for my money in return? The answer would still remain... NO!
bigat naman ng dinadala mo... i hope everything will be better for you!
And sana makawala ka sa chains of your not so good past.. :)
I've read sa isang article na severely damaging ang first 10 years na isang tao at dadalin nya lahat un hanggang present...
ok nmn aq within the family. fully adapted naq sa environment.. its just that na biglang nagfflash back ang mga memories from the past..
i also had bad experience in hamster.. bale ganito.. merong gurl hamster.. kinain siya ni boy hamster... tpos bumile aq another gurl hamster at xa nmn ang kumain ke boy hamster... boy hamster eventually die... alone...
siberian dwarf nga pla ung hamster q.. d naq ng hamster ulet..
i also cried nung nasaksak ung isang aso q.. i was beside her sa mga last moments nya.. nag-aagaw buhay na xa at nakalabas ang mga bituka nya.. puro dugo sa kalye.. me mga dugo din aq sa kamay at sa damit.. On that faithful Sunday morning.. she left us. She should turn 15 that year.. My hatred towards my neighbor grew..
siguro marvin mafefeel mo ang total independence kung nakabukod ka na ng tirahan from your family.
Quote from: fox69 on September 24, 2010, 06:14:28 PM
marvin, mukhang ang dami mong emotional baggage..do you keep a personal journal? sabi nila, it helps in the healing process
Parang diary... ???
yap ... parang diary nga
Kailan LNG e me nkta aqng old diary q.. Sobrg luma na xa puno ng putik.. Kso love life q ung andun eg.. Hehehehe.
ako oo nagbibigay. minsan 5k per month pag hindi ako magastos..
Hi yaneeh !
thanks sa input mo.
Keep on posting.
have a great day! :)
hello Yaneeh! welcome sa pgg! ;D
Quote from: yaneeh on November 18, 2010, 08:06:11 PM
ako oo nagbibigay. minsan 5k per month pag hindi ako magastos..
baka mas okay ang fixed? hahahaha
humihirit ang mom ko di na kasya ang 20k per month mataas na daw bilihin sa pinas at utilities :D
hinahayaan ako ng nanay ko ngaun dahil nagloan ako to fund their business.. kaya gala ako ng gala... ;D
Before i used to. Now ndi na, bumili na lang ako ng regalo sa kanila.
first year ko sa work pinakiusapan ko si ermats na ndi muna ako magbibigay.
kasi sabi ko its my first job at gusto ko nman maenjoy ang perang pinaghirapan ko.
ngayon ikalawang taon ko na, obligado na ako, at least pang kuryente lang namen.
pero sa hirap ng buhay ngayon, sakto lang tlga sinusweldo ko para sa luho ko at sa pangangailangan sa bahay.
ayun lamang. hehe
Yes, since nag-aaral pa ako nagbibigay na ako ng pera sa mama ko for the family needs. I was a consistent scholar when I was in college, and may sideline as student assistant kaya nakaktulong kahit pambili ng food and pambayad sa bill. Medyo nakakatampo, kasi I was thinking na di siya part ng responsibility ko since nag-aaral pa ako, pero ayun.
Ngayon na working ako, sagot ko ang bayarin sa bills, grocery, medicine ng Mama, minsan emergency needs ng family ng mga kapatid ko, tapos ngayon nadagdagan kasi mag-aaral ang isa kong pamangkin sa college kaya dagdag gastos yung kanyang tuition and allowance at baon.
Kung tutuusin, kaya kong gawin ang lahat nang luho ko kasi above standard or basic pay naman ang sweldo ko, pero ayun lang, nagkataon na maraming sinusuportahan. hahaha.
wow pati pamangkin..
ako yes but they didnt require me..pag may occassion na lang
Quote from: joshgroban on May 26, 2014, 09:22:10 PM
wow pati pamangkin..
ako yes but they didnt require me..pag may occassion na lang
Yep, ngayon nga nagtatanong na sila kung kailan kami bibili ng gamit sa school kas pasukan na next week. hehe
Yes, I do. parang tulong ko na rin sa mga utilities and household bills. :)
ako din bread winner.
lahat gastusin sa bahay sa sahud galing.
kung hindi ako nag bibigay siguro sa bahay, more than enough ang sahod ko sakin.
yes i still do. kailangan pa rin ni mommy ni financial help, lalo na't nag-aaral pa bunso namin at wala na daddy ko :-X
nope because my parents can buy me, my friends and this club lol
ahahaha. wow ah.
oo, halos lahat.
nagkaroon lang ako ng adverse belief on this.
HMM...
yep.
breadwinner kasi.
lahat lahat na. :)
Quote from: Jon on July 18, 2014, 12:15:12 PM
yep.
breadwinner kasi.
lahat lahat na. :)
eh pano pag nanghihingi na ang boylet?
Quote from: vortex on May 26, 2014, 07:36:35 AM
Yes, since nag-aaral pa ako nagbibigay na ako ng pera sa mama ko for the family needs. I was a consistent scholar when I was in college, and may sideline as student assistant kaya nakaktulong kahit pambili ng food and pambayad sa bill. Medyo nakakatampo, kasi I was thinking na di siya part ng responsibility ko since nag-aaral pa ako, pero ayun.
Ngayon na working ako, sagot ko ang bayarin sa bills, grocery, medicine ng Mama, minsan emergency needs ng family ng mga kapatid ko, tapos ngayon nadagdagan kasi mag-aaral ang isa kong pamangkin sa college kaya dagdag gastos yung kanyang tuition and allowance at baon.
Kung tutuusin, kaya kong gawin ang lahat nang luho ko kasi above standard or basic pay naman ang sweldo ko, pero ayun lang, nagkataon na maraming sinusuportahan. hahaha.
-same here. kung solo lang natin ung pera. ;)
Quote from: josephbr on July 19, 2014, 05:35:02 PM
Quote from: vortex on May 26, 2014, 07:36:35 AM
Yes, since nag-aaral pa ako nagbibigay na ako ng pera sa mama ko for the family needs. I was a consistent scholar when I was in college, and may sideline as student assistant kaya nakaktulong kahit pambili ng food and pambayad sa bill. Medyo nakakatampo, kasi I was thinking na di siya part ng responsibility ko since nag-aaral pa ako, pero ayun.
Ngayon na working ako, sagot ko ang bayarin sa bills, grocery, medicine ng Mama, minsan emergency needs ng family ng mga kapatid ko, tapos ngayon nadagdagan kasi mag-aaral ang isa kong pamangkin sa college kaya dagdag gastos yung kanyang tuition and allowance at baon.
Kung tutuusin, kaya kong gawin ang lahat nang luho ko kasi above standard or basic pay naman ang sweldo ko, pero ayun lang, nagkataon na maraming sinusuportahan. hahaha.
-same here. kung solo lang natin ung pera. ;)
Wow nice we share the same sentiments joseph. Pero let's continue to do such good thing. Kaysa wala mapuntahan ang pera natin magandang investment na din ang pagtulong sa pamilya.
Nice meeting you by the way. Newbie ka lang ba dito?
Quote from: vortex on July 20, 2014, 06:09:42 PM
Quote from: josephbr on July 19, 2014, 05:35:02 PM
Quote from: vortex on May 26, 2014, 07:36:35 AM
Yes, since nag-aaral pa ako nagbibigay na ako ng pera sa mama ko for the family needs. I was a consistent scholar when I was in college, and may sideline as student assistant kaya nakaktulong kahit pambili ng food and pambayad sa bill. Medyo nakakatampo, kasi I was thinking na di siya part ng responsibility ko since nag-aaral pa ako, pero ayun.
Ngayon na working ako, sagot ko ang bayarin sa bills, grocery, medicine ng Mama, minsan emergency needs ng family ng mga kapatid ko, tapos ngayon nadagdagan kasi mag-aaral ang isa kong pamangkin sa college kaya dagdag gastos yung kanyang tuition and allowance at baon.
Kung tutuusin, kaya kong gawin ang lahat nang luho ko kasi above standard or basic pay naman ang sweldo ko, pero ayun lang, nagkataon na maraming sinusuportahan. hahaha.
-same here. kung solo lang natin ung pera. ;)
Wow nice we share the same sentiments joseph. Pero let's continue to do such good thing. Kaysa wala mapuntahan ang pera natin magandang investment na din ang pagtulong sa pamilya.
Nice meeting you by the way. Newbie ka lang ba dito?
-newbie, kita naman sa # of posts ko. hirap pag breadwinner nu.
Hahaha. Ok sorry di ko napansin stats mo. Oo mahirap pero ok na rin naman kaysa ikaw ang nahingi ng tulong. Hahaha
i don't.
Yes, i do.
tingin ko lang, it's just all about responsibilities.
paminsan may martyr effect ang nagbibigay, yes it is a good act, but there are limitations. panget kasi yung "breadwinner" but for the wrong reasons.
Quote from: angelo on August 06, 2014, 11:43:52 AM
tingin ko lang, it's just all about responsibilities.
paminsan may martyr effect ang nagbibigay, yes it is a good act, but there are limitations. panget kasi yung "breadwinner" but for the wrong reasons.
ha? Pano yun? sorry, di ko na-gets. hehehe.
I think what angelo is trying to say is that in some situations, nagiging dependent ung family sa "breadwinner".
I've seen this a lot of times especially with friends overseas.
Konting kaluskos na gastos, hingi. Nabuntis ung girlfriend, padala.
This may not be happening to you yet, but it doesn't mean it's not a possibility.
ah, yun pala ibig sabihin non.
Well, di naman lagi, since may kanya-kanya na ring pamilya mga kapatid ko. But it's just that may time nga na sa akin din nagre-rely. Say for example, lilipat ng bahay, kulang ang perang pang-down, sa akin lalapit, mga tipong may sakit ang anak, kulang ang panggastos sa hospitalization, etc. Pero di naman lagi. Ang masakit lang nun, they don't believe in me whenever na sabihin kong wala akong pera. hahaha. kaya napipiga talaga. minsan lang nakakasama ng loob talaga. wahaha. naglabas talaga ng grievances dito.
meron kami working student dati, siya yung gumagawa ng mga gawaing bahay samin tapos pinag aaral siya ng parents ko bali binibigyan siya ng allowance every week bukod pa sa tuition fee at miscellaneous expenses tapos yung nanay nya wala patawad pinupuntahan pa siya every week para maghingi ng pera para sa gastos sa bahay pati pambili ng gatas nung anak ng kuya niya sa kanya humihingi, eh magkano lang allowance nun sana kung nagtatrabaho na siya sa isang kumpanya eh estudyante pa lang siya. Nakakainis lang di na nga siya mapag aral pati yung allowance niya kinukuha pa. Buti nalang tuition fee nya nanay ko mismo nagbabayad sa eskwelahan kaya di magalaw nung pamilya nya.
Quote from: vortex on August 07, 2014, 10:01:26 AM
ah, yun pala ibig sabihin non.
Well, di naman lagi, since may kanya-kanya na ring pamilya mga kapatid ko. But it's just that may time nga na sa akin din nagre-rely. Say for example, lilipat ng bahay, kulang ang perang pang-down, sa akin lalapit, mga tipong may sakit ang anak, kulang ang panggastos sa hospitalization, etc. Pero di naman lagi. Ang masakit lang nun, they don't believe in me whenever na sabihin kong wala akong pera. hahaha. kaya napipiga talaga. minsan lang nakakasama ng loob talaga. wahaha. naglabas talaga ng grievances dito.
ye ye. hindi mo na dapat burden. at kapag hindi ka nakapag bigay, ikaw pa ang masama.
eh ang kaso, kung wala ka talaga, tapos para lang makabigay, umutang ka. sinong kawawa later on? sinong maaring mabaon sa utang?
Quote from: vortex on August 07, 2014, 10:01:26 AM
ah, yun pala ibig sabihin non.
Well, di naman lagi, since may kanya-kanya na ring pamilya mga kapatid ko. But it's just that may time nga na sa akin din nagre-rely. Say for example, lilipat ng bahay, kulang ang perang pang-down, sa akin lalapit, mga tipong may sakit ang anak, kulang ang panggastos sa hospitalization, etc. Pero di naman lagi. Ang masakit lang nun, they don't believe in me whenever na sabihin kong wala akong pera. hahaha. kaya napipiga talaga. minsan lang nakakasama ng loob talaga. wahaha. naglabas talaga ng grievances dito.
I think we're culturally bred to not decline requests. hahaha.
Siguro kase on previous occasions laging may nailalabas. So nung dumadating na walang nailalabas, di naniniwala.
I've had some years of practice with this behaviour. Eventually I'd sometimes say No kung minor issues lang naman. Even during emergencies, kahit kaya naman, di ko binibigay lahat. At most half the amount they need.
Don't get me wrong, di ako nagdadamot. Mas mahirap lang na in the long run people would be "financially clingy" expect me to have what they need. Eh paano naman pag ako na ung may kailangan?
^ that's the way i view it. kaya hindi ako nagbibigay or i never let them ask and ask from me, ESPECIALLY if the financial need was born out of their responsibility.
oo mga 60 % ng total na kita ko..
yup. Sna nga mtpos n. Lol
Quote from: vortex on August 07, 2014, 10:01:26 AM
ah, yun pala ibig sabihin non.
Well, di naman lagi, since may kanya-kanya na ring pamilya mga kapatid ko. But it's just that may time nga na sa akin din nagre-rely. Say for example, lilipat ng bahay, kulang ang perang pang-down, sa akin lalapit, mga tipong may sakit ang anak, kulang ang panggastos sa hospitalization, etc. Pero di naman lagi. Ang masakit lang nun, they don't believe in me whenever na sabihin kong wala akong pera. hahaha. kaya napipiga talaga. minsan lang nakakasama ng loob talaga. wahaha. naglabas talaga ng grievances dito.
prehas tau kla nla d nshoshort
@rye: I feel for you bro. Nangyari lang ulet kahapon. So pamangkin ko need magbayad sa school kasi di pakukuhain ng exam pag di nagbayad. Tinext ako ng Kuya ko nanghihiram ng pera. Sinabi ko wala akong pera and he replied insinuating na gawan ko ng paraan, pinapahiram nya ako sa kakilala ko ng pera. Hahaha. Well sign na alam nilang di ako makakatanggi at di talaga sila naniniwalang wala akong pera. Bottomline, dumukot ako sa ipon ko. Well babayaran naman nya, delayed lang ng sweldo. Government employee eh saka delayed padala ng asawa.
mababait kasi tayo. Sana lang ganun din sila pag tayo naman my kailangan.
Regardless yan no. Kung alam mong may tendency ma-delay ang sahod at padala, dapat may emergency fund sya.
At hindi mo kasalanan un. S'ya kamo gumagawa ng paraan.
Grabe! Emotionally charged un ah. hahahhaha
Yup.
No means to offend you, vortex.
Just got carried away with that post.
Quote from: Lanchie on August 21, 2014, 09:59:26 PM
No means to offend you, vortex.
Just got carried away with that post.
Hahaha, ok lang.
Well actually, yung previous post ko intent ko talaga mag-rant. hahaha. Dumadating lang talaga yung oras na naiinis ako sa mga ganung pangyayari, pero wala naman magagawa. Wala naman iba pede tumulong. Masarap, pero minsan masakit, kasi nag-iipon ako to buy something or go somewhere, tapos na ko-compromise sa mga ganung bagay. Since bata pa ako ganun na ang nangyayari, Elementary pa lang ako alam nila na lagi ako may ipon, kaya di sila naniniwala na wala akong pera talaga. Which is sad, napipiga talaga ako. Last year na, nagtalu-talo kaming magkakapatid dahil sa ganyan eh. And to be honest, mga lasing na sila, at talagang nagpakalasing ako para lang makasagot sa kanila. hahaha. Di ko kasi kayang maglabas ng sama ng loob and ayon, naibuhos ko ang panunumbat ko sa mga kapatid ko. hahaha. Pang-MMK nga ata yung mga isinagot ko sa mga kapatid ko eh. Sinabihan kasi ako ng isa kong Kuya, may panggala ka nga sa mga akyat mo ng bundok saka outing eh, ekek eh. Sagot ko naman sa kanya "Hoy, yung mga panggala ko pinag-iipunan ko yun, saka kung gumala man ako hindi naman ako kinakapos magbigay ng pera sa bahay." Kasi nung tima na yon nagbibilangan na ng mga gastusin sa bahay eh. hahaha
naawa naman ako sayo vortex, pero may mga tao talagang ganyan kung makasumbat, sabi nga nila "People NEVER remember the million times you helped them, only the ONE TIME you don't"
hay sarap gawing signature lol
Quote from: otipeps on August 22, 2014, 09:02:20 AM
naawa naman ako sayo vortex, pero may mga tao talagang ganyan kung makasumbat, sabi nga nila "People NEVER remember the million times you helped them, only the ONE TIME you don't"
hay sarap gawing signature lol
wahaha, gusto ko iyang quote na yan. Parang nabasa ko na din iyan dati. At totoo naman. Ilang beses na nangyari eh.
That's life and we have to deal with it. :)
before nung nag work ako nagbibigay ako or nanlilibre. But now back to school ulit sila ulit nagbibigay sakin. lol
Quote from: marvinofthefaintsmile on July 19, 2014, 12:34:14 AM
Quote from: Jon on July 18, 2014, 12:15:12 PM
yep.
breadwinner kasi.
lahat lahat na. :)
eh pano pag nanghihingi na ang boylet?
excuse me?
why should i spend for them?
they spend for me.
#gandalanganglabanan
wait, i dont go out with bisexual who is jobless, no stable job and not a college grad.
^nice Jon! ;D
Ako bihira lang magbigay sa parents ko kasi bunso ako.. 8)
Quote from: moimoi on September 05, 2014, 11:17:02 AM
Ako bihira lang magbigay sa parents ko kasi bunso ako.. 8)
Naku po, baligtad tayu.
Ako nga lang nahihingian ni Mama ng pera whenever she needed at wala akong magawa kung hindi bigyan siya lol
Quote from: Flying Ninja on September 05, 2014, 12:46:33 PM
Quote from: moimoi on September 05, 2014, 11:17:02 AM
Ako bihira lang magbigay sa parents ko kasi bunso ako.. 8)
Naku po, baligtad tayu.
Ako nga lang nahihingian ni Mama ng pera whenever she needed at wala akong magawa kung hindi bigyan siya lol
Lahat naman kasi ng siblings ko may trabaho so may hierarchy din sa amen yung bigayan-Eldest-youngest. hehehe pero ako kasi nagbibigay ng allowance ng pamangkin ko na nag-aaral sa kolehiyo ngayon eh, kaya siguro di na nila ako hinihingian.
^ hahaha, nice one Moimoi. Ako paaral ko pamangkin ko sa college, plus gastos dito sa bahay. May mga pamilya na rin kasi mga kapatid ko kaya di na rin nahihingian. Pero kapag nagkagipitan naman nalalapitan.
Quote from: Jon on September 05, 2014, 10:58:27 AM
Quote from: marvinofthefaintsmile on July 19, 2014, 12:34:14 AM
Quote from: Jon on July 18, 2014, 12:15:12 PM
yep.
breadwinner kasi.
lahat lahat na. :)
eh pano pag nanghihingi na ang boylet?
excuse me?
why should i spend for them?
they spend for me.
#gandalanganglabanan
wait, i dont go out with bisexual who is jobless, no stable job and not a college grad.
BOOM! yan ang gusto ko sayo eh. hahaha.
I always go Dutch.
Quote from: vortex on September 05, 2014, 02:37:51 PM
^ hahaha, nice one Moimoi. Ako paaral ko pamangkin ko sa college, plus gastos dito sa bahay. May mga pamilya na rin kasi mga kapatid ko kaya di na rin nahihingian. Pero kapag nagkagipitan naman nalalapitan.
May pamilya na rin yung iba kong siblings, pero nagbibigay pa rin sila. Tsaka may natatanggap na din kasi erpats ko monthly from SSS so, mejo nakakaluwag na sila. Wag lang sila magkasakit..
hahaha. Different strokes for different folks.
Even my past girlfriends know we'd always go Dutch...
(Maybe except if I'm really in a good mood.)
Speaking of which, I just read this:
"In Austria, Czech Republic, Denmark, Finland, Germany, Iceland, Republic of Ireland, Norway, Sweden, and Switzerland, the practice of splitting the bill in restaurants is common. In a courtship situation where both parties have a similar financial standing, the traditional custom of the man always paying in restaurants has largely fallen out of use and is by many, including etiquette authorities..."
Quote from: moimoi on September 08, 2014, 12:03:47 PM
Quote from: vortex on September 05, 2014, 02:37:51 PM
^ hahaha, nice one Moimoi. Ako paaral ko pamangkin ko sa college, plus gastos dito sa bahay. May mga pamilya na rin kasi mga kapatid ko kaya di na rin nahihingian. Pero kapag nagkagipitan naman nalalapitan.
May pamilya na rin yung iba kong siblings, pero nagbibigay pa rin sila. Tsaka may natatanggap na din kasi erpats ko monthly from SSS so, mejo nakakaluwag na sila. Wag lang sila magkasakit..
ah buti naman kung ganon. Mama ko walang ganon, pero yung asawa nya supposed to be may Pension since war veteran, pero kasi 2nd family lang kami eh. So basta magulo. Mga kapatid ko naman nagbibigay din kapag nakakaluwag. And speaking of, etong kapatid ko humihiram ng pera saken, sabi ko "wala na ako pera, hinihintay ko na lang sweldo ko kasi magbabayad pa ako ng utang". Ang reply "ipagtabi mo ako ng hinihiram ko sayo...blah blah blah" hahaha, naiinis ako na ewan. Sorry guys, nagbe-vent out lang. Minsan lang naman. hahaha
Yes. family expense and tuition ;D
Quote from: eLgimiker0 on September 11, 2014, 09:18:42 AM
Yes. family expense and tuition ;D
Sa laki ba naman ng kita ng tindahan mo eh, barya lang yan lahat! hahaha
ahahaha, sa kanila na lahat na pupunta. Pero no regret naman ;D
Quote from: eLgimiker0 on September 12, 2014, 12:24:53 PM
ahahaha, sa kanila na lahat na pupunta. Pero no regret naman ;D
Pwede mo naman ako isama sa charity mo! hahaha
Quote from: eLgimiker0 on September 12, 2014, 12:24:53 PM
ahahaha, sa kanila na lahat na pupunta. Pero no regret naman ;D
Nice. hahaha
Hindi. Pero nahihiya ako kaya minsan ako na nagbabayad ng bills. 😅
Quote from: mang juan on April 13, 2020, 02:43:00 AM
Hindi. Pero nahihiya ako kaya minsan ako na nagbabayad ng bills. 😅
Ako nagbabayad ng bills nila. Nagbibigay din ako ng panggastos. :)
Di na kami n lng ng kapatid ko eh
Yes. Lalo ngayong ECQ
dati monthly. (hassle) ngayon yearly nalang ako ngbibigay. isang bagsak nalang. haha..