How is your relationship with your father?
I'm sharing this very inspiring video clip.
http://youtu.be/ts8F6dV_0uM
Another clip for us to get inspired...
http://youtu.be/kZlXWp6vFdE
I do not know if the world is just damned, but all the people I have been close with have father issues.
I hope lahat ng magiging tatay one day dito sa PGG ay maging mabuting ama sa mga anak nila.
If there were things I hoped my father would have taught me, it will be these :
Love doesn't easily change or go away. If you think it does, ask yourself what happened, or make sure if the feeling is really gone. You might end up begging for dead-beat feelings. Friendship, like any relationship, is a give and take process. When one fails to do his job, it dies. Don't grow too secured that someone will always be there for you that you tend to be so lackadaisical. Remember, hearts get tired too. Communication is very important; if it's gone, it's as good as letting the relationship die.
Learn to speak your mind and feelings clearly. Let other people know what you want them to know; don't wait for the time when they would not be willing to listen before you speakâyou'll regret not saying those words. Sometimes, it is important that you say you love a person because humans need reminders and assurances because we each have our own insecurities. Tell them what you want them to know before it becomes too late; you'll cry forever for that.
Value even the littlest things in your life. Value not only those things you see with your eyes. The eyes are often blind; remember that the heart sees more clearly than the eyes. Be careful with people around you. Try to see those who are just there because you have something to give and those who are there because they really love you.
Be careful in handling people's feelings and don't let others play with yours. Don't let yourself be carried away by new events and transitory feelings. You might lose someone important because you tried to put new things in your life that are not worth keeping. Don't plunge yourself into self-pity; it can do nothing but hurt you more. Know what you can do and do them. Cry, but not much. Crying won't help; it'll just ease the pain but it won't solve the problem.
When you know one thing will bring about nothing but hurt, don't do it. Regrets may be hard to handle in the end. Don't assume some things would make somebody happy. Most of the times, it ends up that you hurt that person even more.
Don't let fears stop you from doing something that would make you happy. Rather, be afraid of not having what you could have had. Life is quite short for regrets, so make the most out of it. Don't run away from problems for it'll just chase you. Face it; Be a MAN. You'll get satisfaction in the end. When you make mistakes, admit it and face the consequences. Be humble.
When you are in a relationship, do your best to keep it. Don't think that letting go will always be for the better, for sometimes, it's the other way around. Don't lose your loved ones to your useless pride. Never give up on someone you love. Know when to fight and when to let go. Don't let yourself be fooled by ephemeral feelings and spur-of-the-moment thoughts.
Try to be happy with what you have; that's the secret of living life. Everything happens for a reason and sometimes, we are the reason. We get hurt at sometimes because of our own faults. Learn to know when pain is self-inflicted. Love yourself like you love other people; too much on one side is bad. Be cautious with yourself because some people would get hurt when you get hurt or when you hurt yourself; these people loves you. Don't be selfish. Make other people happy, but make yourself happy too. Pray to God always and thank Him for everything. Help yourself.
To the one who told me these things, thank you.
YMB.
ayt darkstar! :-)
My father is too perfectionist....
I don't know if I should be happy about that..... :( :( :( :( :( :'(
I wanna cry
^^ see the positive side of it. :-)
can't see it......
it has been always like that for almost 23 years of my life.......
ihahanda ko na sana ang gamit ko.... :'( :'( :'(\
good provider - check
mabait - sometimes
strict- super sobra grabe
addict/alcoholic/gambler - hindi hindi
perfectionist - diyos ata ang tatay ko...
loving - too much na siguro...sakal na ako...
:'( :'(
see yourself blessed...
- others have fathers who have already passed away
- other people have fathers, yet separated, because family is a broken family....
- other people have fathers who are physically abusive
- others have fathers who are physically present, but personally distant towards them...
consider yourself blessed...
yes I am really blessed....
that I have a very loving father...who always want me to stay inside my cage...
and never let me hurt by anyone....that's the reason why me and my siblings are really sensitive....don't even want to mingle with anybody...and sometimes really excited to do so.....I am always like this left behind....I don't even know If I do exist in my generation..... :'( when can i live my own life....freely.... :-X
i don't like my father.
:'(
Blessed ka arthur dahil may ganyang klaseng tatay ka.. Always be thankful. :)
Sobrang namimiss ko ang dad ko. :(
Sana nandito lang sya kasama namin lalo na sa ganitong sitwasyon sa buhay namin. Really missing my dad. :(
(naiyak ako habang tina-type ko ang post na ito.. )
Si papa..
sa totoo lang maraming pagkukulang sakin...mula pagkabata ko hindi ko sya kasama most of the time.. he left to work abroad when i was 8 years old at ngayon 26 na ako andun pa rin sya...almost 2 decades.
i got all the things i wanted kasi kayang kaya nya bilhin..until dumating sa time na hindi na rin mabili kasi we had financial and family problems..muntik na ako magstop sa pagaaral dahil sa prob na to...
pero kahit ganun..
i love my father so much.. :)
Quote from: arthur_allen30 on October 31, 2011, 11:56:37 PM
yes I am really blessed....
that I have a very loving father...who always want me to stay inside my cage...
and never let me hurt by anyone....that's the reason why me and my siblings are really sensitive....don't even want to mingle with anybody...and sometimes really excited to do so.....I am always like this left behind....I don't even know If I do exist in my generation..... :'( when can i live my own life....freely.... :-X
hey arthur, we're at the same age, pero gets ko kung hinihigpitan ako ng erpats ko. although tingin ko hindi ako "in" in terms sa bilyar, pambababae, yosi, droga at iba pang kagaguhan; ramdam ko na tama yung paghihigpit sa akin.
kung ayaw ka niyang palayain, try mo siyang kausapin. eldest child ka ba? siguro it's time para makapag-decide ka na on your own. i guess overprotective siya sa iyo kasi mahal na mahal ka niya. :)
kahit sino at kaht ano pa mga tatay natin,tama cla,we should be grateful and feel blessed dahil may tatay tau..kasi maraming tao sa mundo ang lumaki na walang tatay,yung iba nga ni picture wala,ni pangalan di alam..
anyway..ako,close kami ng papa ko,he's a good provider,hindi sya strikto,sobrang sipag..kaibigan ng lahat,magaling makisama..sya yung tipong pede mo makausap about your problems and about girls..madalas nga lng kami magargue pagdating sa mga decision making,kasi lagi kami magkasalungat,eldest kasi ako so madalas ako makialam..at nakakatakot sya pag nagalit,parang nagtatransform sa pagiging werewolf..ilang beses na rin ako nakatikim ng suntok sa knya,the gud thing is after mawala yung galit nya ok na kami,parang walang nangyari..
Quote from: vir on November 01, 2011, 03:51:26 PM
ilang beses na rin ako nakatikim ng suntok sa knya,the gud thing is after mawala yung galit nya ok na kami,parang walang nangyari..
naks, ang lupet ng samahan niyo na papa mo. nung nasapak niya ako, buwan ko siya napatawad hehehe... sobrang babaw kasi eh. though, ok na sa akin yun :)
Quote from: pong on November 01, 2011, 01:25:31 PM
Quote from: arthur_allen30 on October 31, 2011, 11:56:37 PM
yes I am really blessed....
that I have a very loving father...who always want me to stay inside my cage...
and never let me hurt by anyone....that's the reason why me and my siblings are really sensitive....don't even want to mingle with anybody...and sometimes really excited to do so.....I am always like this left behind....I don't even know If I do exist in my generation..... :'( when can i live my own life....freely.... :-X
hey arthur, we're at the same age, pero gets ko kung hinihigpitan ako ng erpats ko. although tingin ko hindi ako "in" in terms sa bilyar, pambababae, yosi, droga at iba pang kagaguhan; ramdam ko na tama yung paghihigpit sa akin.
kung ayaw ka niyang palayain, try mo siyang kausapin. eldest child ka ba? siguro it's time para makapag-decide ka na on your own. i guess overprotective siya sa iyo kasi mahal na mahal ka niya. :)
I know that my father loves me so much....
I am the youngest....the cutest...the pinakamakulet....the pinakamalambing...hehe..
I remember the time nung binatukan ako nung higante kong classmate nung elem...
hindi ko sinabi...kasi pag may problem ako gusto ko hanggat maari akin lang
ayoko ipaalam sa pamilya ko....
then kinuwento nung kapitbahay namin...hehehe..
nalaman ng erpat ko ....tapos pinuntahan nya yung mataba kong classmate na mas matangkad pa sa tatay ko....
then dinuro duro nya hahaha....then sabi ni jumbo sa akin "sorry "
hehehehe.....
pero i want to live on my own...na parang tunay na tao..hehehe
Quote from: pong on November 01, 2011, 05:38:56 PM
Quote from: vir on November 01, 2011, 03:51:26 PM
ilang beses na rin ako nakatikim ng suntok sa knya,the gud thing is after mawala yung galit nya ok na kami,parang walang nangyari..
naks, ang lupet ng samahan niyo na papa mo. nung nasapak niya ako, buwan ko siya napatawad hehehe... sobrang babaw kasi eh. though, ok na sa akin yun :)
never pa akong nasapak ng tatay ko...muntik lang hehehe...
if it happens...lalayas talaga ako hahahaha...
Quote from: pong on November 01, 2011, 05:38:56 PM
Quote from: vir on November 01, 2011, 03:51:26 PM
ilang beses na rin ako nakatikim ng suntok sa knya,the gud thing is after mawala yung galit nya ok na kami,parang walang nangyari..
naks, ang lupet ng samahan niyo na papa mo. nung nasapak niya ako, buwan ko siya napatawad hehehe... sobrang babaw kasi eh. though, ok na sa akin yun :)
oo ganyan ang tatay ko..bihira lng naman kasi xa magalit..saka alam ko rin naman na may mali ako,palaban kasi ako,pag pinapagalitan ako,hindi pwedeng hindi ako sasagot,yun yung nagtitrigger para saktan nya ko..kasi kung tutuusin madali naman xa kausap..ako lng tong pasaway talaga..
nagawa ko na rin yan pero sa kapatid ko,2 years kami di nagusap..pag sa tatay ko ginawa yan,ako rin ang kawawa,hehehe..
Mabuhay kayong mga nagmamahal sa inyong mga tatay! ;)
mabuhay!!!!
Ang tatay ko maraming pagkukulang pero naiintindihan ko kung bakit siya ganun. dahil iba ang pagpapalaki sa kaniya ng lolo't lola ko at dahil marami kaming magkakapatid na kailangan niyang palakihin. Pero kahit ganun, I am always reminded na may Tatay tayo sa langit na kayang punuan ang lahat ng pagkukulang na yun.
Kung maraming pagkukulang ang tatay ko; marami din naman akong pagkukulang bilang anak. Hindi kami gaano malapit sa isa't isa(actually hindi ako malapit kahit sa nanay ko) pero alam ko mahal niya ako at mahal ko din siya.
Quote from: noyskie on November 03, 2011, 09:21:24 PM
Ang tatay ko maraming pagkukulang pero naiintindihan ko kung bakit siya ganun. dahil iba ang pagpapalaki sa kaniya ng lolo't lola ko at dahil marami kaming magkakapatid na kailangan niyang palakihin. Pero kahit ganun, I am always reminded na may Tatay tayo sa langit na kayang punuan ang lahat ng pagkukulang na yun.
Kung maraming pagkukulang ang tatay ko; marami din naman akong pagkukulang bilang anak. Hindi kami gaano malapit sa isa't isa(actually hindi ako malapit kahit sa nanay ko) pero alam ko mahal niya ako at mahal ko din siya.
..at yun ang importante!..hindi man sila ang pinakamagaling na tatay/nanay sa mundo,di man naipapakita o sinasabi..ang mahalaga alam natin at nararamdaman ng bawat isa na mahal natin cla at mahal nila tayo..
wala namang perpektong tatay eh. kung ano man yung hindi napunan ng mga magulang natin, subukan natin na punan yun sa mga anak natin.
the fact na pinanagutan ng tatay mo at ni-recognize ka niya bilang anak (or better, nagsasama pa rin sila ng mama mo) ang malaking patunay na mahal ka niya at mahal niya ang pamilya niya. kaya ang sarap saktan ng mga tatay na nananakbo ng babaeng nabuntis nila
Quote from: pong on November 04, 2011, 05:45:09 AM
wala namang perpektong tatay eh. kung ano man yung hindi napunan ng mga magulang natin, subukan natin na punan yun sa mga anak natin.
the fact na pinanagutan ng tatay mo at ni-recognize ka niya bilang anak (or better, nagsasama pa rin sila ng mama mo) ang malaking patunay na mahal ka niya at mahal niya ang pamilya niya. kaya ang sarap saktan ng mga tatay na nananakbo ng babaeng nabuntis nila
alam ko na bakit naka abstinence ka.
para wala kang tatakbohan. :p
Jon stay on topic please. thanks.
ONT:
Basta kayong may mga tatay pa, at nanay as well, pahalagahan niyo sila habang andyan pa sila.
Hindi natin alam kung kelan sila mawawala. Ako, sobrang miss na miss ko na ang dad ko, kaya habang nandito pa mom ko, talagang inaalagaan namin siya.
YAP ..touching
Quote from: MaRfZ on November 04, 2011, 02:25:06 PM
Jon stay on topic please. thanks.
ONT:
Basta kayong may mga tatay pa, at nanay as well, pahalagahan niyo sila habang andyan pa sila.
Hindi natin alam kung kelan sila mawawala. Ako, sobrang miss na miss ko na ang dad ko, kaya habang nandito pa mom ko, talagang inaalagaan namin siya.
Tama! Pero ako hindi expressive eh. May times na nasisigawan ko Mama ko pero mahal ko iyon! Makulit kasi eh, gusto lagi napapagalitan! hahaha
Sa Tatay naman, 6 years old pa lang ata ako nang mamatay siya, but medyo bitter ako sa kanya. Hindi ko alam kung baket, hindi ko ma-explain. Kasi I believe may pagkukulang siya sa amin na mahirap mapunan. Ayun lang, pero to be honest never ako nag-long to have a father, normal ba iyon?
Maybe you do not long for him because you never really "had" him for a father. ;(
yap...same with me...he died some yrs ago...wala naman akong bitterness pero di lang kasi ko lumaki sa kanya... pumupunta lang pag may accasion... pero okey lang i think it teaches me to be more mature and see life in a different perspective... positive that is...
Quote from: darkstar13 on November 15, 2011, 05:38:52 PM
Maybe you do not long for him because you never really "had" him for a father. ;(
Hindi ko alam, based sa mga kapatid ko he'd been a good father. Although maybe not an ideal one. haha..hindi ko alam, ganun naman talaga eh, may mga pagkukulang ang mga tao. Although may naaalala ako na memories with him pero iyon lang. It was shadowed already by what I perceive about him. Hindi naman alam ng pamilya ko na bitter ako because at that age nung mamatay siya who would have thought of me na may ganung pag-iisip. Nung lumalaki ako parang nun lang lumalabas ang bitternes ko eh.
just forgive him...anuman ang natitirang bitterness sayo... its not worth it...
Quote from: joshgroban on November 16, 2011, 11:22:55 PM
just forgive him...anuman ang natitirang bitterness sayo... its not worth it...
Thanks Sir Josh, well to be honest wala na naman sa akin yung bitterness eh. Yung pagkukulang nya sa amin matagal ko nang kinalimutan. It just so happened na bumalik na naman yung effect ng pagkakamali nya. But I don't want to linger on his mistakes, napag-usapan namin ng Mama ko kaninang madaling-araw iyan, sabi ko na lang hayaan tutal patay na siya eh. Thanks sa advise. You're right, it's not worth it. After all thankful pa rin ako that's he's been my father.
basta ako try be the good father to my kids...even if not perfect...
Quote from: arthur_allen30 on October 31, 2011, 11:44:42 PM
can't see it......
it has been always like that for almost 23 years of my life.......
ihahanda ko na sana ang gamit ko.... :'( :'( :'(\
good provider - check
mabait - sometimes
strict- super sobra grabe
addict/alcoholic/gambler - hindi hindi
perfectionist - diyos ata ang tatay ko...
loving - too much na siguro...sakal na ako...
:'( :'(
hala! iharap moq s father mo coz im the embodiment of perfection. charot!
Grade2 ako nung naghiwalay parents ko. Sa ermats ko na ako lumaki. After graduation na lang ulit kami nagkita.
Lahat ng memories ko sa kanya hanggang grade2 ako masaya naman lahat.
Ngayon may iba na syang family and mga anak, pero ok naman kami. In good terms, and well aqccommodated naman ako sa bago nyang family kapag nagbabakasyon ako sa kanila.
Di ko masasabing naging mabuti siyang asawa ng nanay ko pero masasabi ko'ng kahit papaano eh naging mabuting ama naman siya sa amin;
at dahil jan. kantahan q n lng keo ng Ode to the Family. char!
not that close.
i just noticed that Filipinos anchor more on the motherly side.
We started out as a matriarchial society....
Anyway, si Tatay at ako eh di magkasundo for the longest time but since pumulas na ako sa bahay for 5 years may mutual respect na kame ngayon.
thats good..
bat ba biglang tumutugtog sa isip ko yung Ode to family ng Cranberries.. My father... my father.. he like me.. he like me..
di ako close kay tatay kasi nagseparate sila kay nanay ako napunta... every christmas lang ako dun nung maliit pa ko... but on his last days here on earth i was able to tell him whats in my heart all these years
We've come to a point of mutual respect since I'm out of the house for almost a decade now.
Nagpapakiramdaman lagi kase parehas kameng mabunganga. hahhaha