10 things all single people must do
By Amy Spencer
Here, we offer a checklist of experiences for single people to try before settling down.
1. Travel alone. Whether you're trying to find your way through the Paris Metro or the London Underground, haggling over a painting in Mexico or choosing where to bed down in the Badlands , traveling by yourself builds a confidence you simply can't get any other way. In an unfamiliar place, you have to make decisions by yourself, for yourself every day, which will build a self-rel ian ce you'll always treasure — even when you become part of a twosome.
2. Wallow in the ache of a broken heart. Oh, the pain. The agony. The pints of Ben & Jerry's in front of the cable TV. Yep, getting dumped is beyond awful, but guess what? It's the only way that you'll develop the empathy you'll need to be a better partner in a relationship. Because if you're sensitive to the grief someone else has caused you, you're less likely to do the same to anyone else. So, consider this painful milestone a lesson in karma that'll serve you well as you travel through your dating days.
3. Spend a weekend with a married couple your age. On lonely nights, it's common for single folk to envision marriage as a cozy scene from a classic film or mail-order catalog. But by spending 48 hours with a real couple, you'll learn that in between the snuggling and pet names comes growling, bickering, si len t treatments and maybe even a slammed door or two before they ultimately compromise. It will show you what married life is like, warts and all, so you won't over-idealize the two-becomes-one phenomenon again.
4. Don't come home all night. That's right, wild thing. Crash on a friend's couch, take your friends up on that offer of a last-minute trip... Once you have a mate, you can't just take off on your own without explanation. And, truthfully, you won't want to. So if you don't have someone you have to call and check in with every few hours, take this opportunity to check out!
5. Stand up for a cause you care about. Whether you volunteer to help register voters for the next election (why not start early?) or convince your neighborhood or apartment complex to start recycling, get fired up over an issue while you have the time to devote to it. It will remind you that while, yes, finding your soul mate is pretty important, there are other issues at stake in the world that could use your help. And besides, the big-heartedness you'll be cultivating is very attractive.
6. Have a real adventure. Learn to fly a plane, surf some big waves, or start your own business. Give yourself a thrill by doing something just for you, just for the experience — without having someone at home worrying about you or nagging you not to. Oh, and one more gift with purchase: Think about how much fun you'll have telling your next date about your daring experience.
7. Learn how to take care of yourself. Being solo shouldn't keep you from cooking for yourself, so learn how to make an impressive meal for one (even if it's mac and cheese with your own added favorite extra thrown in). While you're at it, learn how to back up your hard drive and sew on replacement buttons. You'll feel strong and self-sufficient — and you'll be armed with skills to share when you are in a relationship.
8. Buy something hugely impractical just because you love it. Once you're in a relationship, you'll start thinking about your partner before you purchase pricey items — not just "Will he or she hate it?" but "Is this where I want to be putting my money if we're saving for a wedding?" The single life means a single bank account and an excuse to blow a wad of cash without (some of the) guilt. So, make yourself happy and buy something you crave, whether it's an expensive vintage movie poster or a decked-out mountain bike.
9. Develop a hobby. Learn to woodwork, play acoustic guitar, speak French, DJ on turntables, or make digital short films for fun. Of course you can (and should) still have hobbies when you're dating someone, but your solo time is prime time to devote yourself to something that makes life more interesting for you — and makes you more interesting to others.
10. Be completely, utterly, wholly single for at least three months. Hopping wildly from one relationship to the next can do you a disservice. Why? Because you're never more ripe for self-reflection than when you're on your own — and the more you know yourself, the more likely you are to find someone who's right for the real you.
Amy Spencer writes about relationships and other topics for Glamour, Maxim, Real Simple and Cosmopolitan magazines. She personally swears by all of the above — though she admits to being a little too chummy with number 8 on the list.
nice vir. :) nabasa ko na din to over the net. pero binasa ko ulet dito.
thanks for the share :) i already did most on the list.
1. travel alone - drive puntang probinsya lang pero di ba backpacking by myself. though i have thoughts about doing it... just me, my bike and the open road.
2. wallow in the ache of broken heart - did it for a month and to make matters worst i quit my job.
3. spend a weekend with a married couple your age - buong afternoon lang pag dumalaw sa tropang medyo maaga nag-asawa. not the whole weekend.
4. don't come home all night - countless of times ;)
5. stand up for a cause you care about - pasensya na not that socially aware.
6. have a real adventure - dipped my toes into motorsports
7. learn how to take care of yourself - been on my own during college. but came back home kasi malapit lang sa amin trbho ko then after 3 years working sa hometown namin i left the nest and started living on my own.
8. buy something hugely impractical just because you love it - bought a factory race prepped engine that cost more than the car.
9. develop a hobby - tinkering with my car
10. be completely, utterly, wholly single for at least three months - check! and tried to meet and date women everyweek.... 1 month ko lang ata na-sustain... wasak wallet hahaha
Nice post vir.. :) magawa nga lahat ng yan.hehe
eh di maglakwatsa!!
part 1
http://hunkrideradventures.blogspot.com/2012/04/joyride-marikina-to-bicol-sorsogon-part.html
part 2
http://hunkrideradventures.blogspot.com/2012/04/joyride-marikina-to-bicol-sorsogon-part_08.html
part 3
http://hunkrideradventures.blogspot.com/2012/04/joyride-marikina-to-bicol-sorsogon-part_7257.html
part 4
http://hunkrideradventures.blogspot.com/2012/04/joyride-marikina-to-bicol-sorsogon-part_2238.html
list made by a girl, sana meron din list created by a boy ;D
mga ginagawa ko...
1. shopping (you can buy the things you really wanted)
2. look for dates/ one night stands ;D
3. gumimik kung san san ng walang paalam paalam (no limits)
travel alone is not for me, though makakatipid ka sa lahat ng expenses, I don't travel alone.
Puro gala :))
LIVE LIFE TO ITS FULLEST!!..
Okay lang ba kung single ang status mo since birth? Lols
ou..singlE nga ako.
wala pa sa utaK ko ang panliligaw..
Quote from: toperyo on June 07, 2012, 10:48:03 AM
Okay lang ba kung single ang status mo since birth? Lols
never had a gf? Okay lang yun, kesa naman nakadami kang gfs pero panay naman ang failed. dadami haters mo. hehehe.
back to topic:
1. yes, travel alone is good. i'm always doing this.
2. ikutin mo ang pilipinas, and other countries. para madami kang matutunan. you have something to talk about(topic) with you future wife and kids.
3. play lots of sports. kasi di mo na to magagawa pag may anak ka na.... hahaahaha. pwede naman pero limited.
4. attend to a party.
5. sleep over with you barkada. - di na pwede to pag may gf.
6. save.
7. spend more time with you parents - you will leave them eventually. let them kiss and hug you.
8. fix your insecurities. no girls wouldnt like guys with lots of these.
9. do your wildest imagination than cheat in the future.
10. leave bad experiences in the past.
kakaiba mga nilagay ko dito. hahahaha....
tama sya!^
at napakanta ako ng.. "I've been to paradise.. but I've never been to me..."
sarap sarap maging single eh walang problema walang nababawas na sobrang laki sa allowance mo ahahha date date pa sabay bandang huli matatanggap mo lang sa babae
"SORRY MAY MAHAL NA AKONG IBA"
PERO ANG MAGNDA DITO ATLIS SINABI MO YUNG NARARAMDAMAN MO DUN SA GIRL DIBA KESA NAGING DUWAG KA
^luv it!
na-experience ko na din yan.. Kea ngayon eh ini-injoy ko ang pagiging single.. biruin mo, 900% ang increase ng sweldo ko since nagstart akong magwork. at asa pinas lang ako. Tsaka lahat nagagawa ko..
Although yes, masarap pa din na merong ibang taong nagmamahal sayo.. Ngayon eh hinahanap ko siya sa office namin.. bka makita ko na siya after all these years..
tama kau mga kuyas!
pinakamahalaga ay ang MAGIPON! bow!
travelling alone.. hmmm maybe I should give it a try.. hehe
i think single men should really save...
^should save what?
Kung may sarili ka na trabaho:
1. Mag-ipon
2. Tumulong sa gastos sa bahay
3. Maexperience yung uminom na inaakay na pauwi;
4. Magbar
5. Mangchics
6. Magpamassage na may extra service
7. Magtravel ng magtravel
8. MagGym
ung 3 lang ata ang dq pa ginagawa.. i feel that's so immature. char!
bilhin ang mga bagay na gusto... save save then along the way...
hmm magbakasyon sa ibang lugar sa pilipinas parang cebu lang at cdo next year hehe
ang pagiging single ay parang pag-kain lang sa isang buffet.. patikim-tikim ka lang ng ulam.. pero hindi mo pwedeng ubusin ang isang ulam unless dedicated ka na dito.. pwede kang makipag-date sa kung sino-sino at hindi masama iyon..
Magawa nga to.
^^ang naisip ko dun eh pumunta sa mga eat all you can..haha :P